My toddler rebels against me

[Babykiki]

I have a typical two year old that apart from being my pride and joy is also wayward, opinionated and prone to the occasional outburst when she doesn't get her way. Somehow my husband my parents and her nursery teacher are able to take the reigns and get on without much complaint.
On the other hand it takes me, her mother, 2 hours to get her out the house fully dressed and take her to nursery. She doesn't want to get dressed, she wants to stop n play at this and that playground on the way etc. And she throws herself on the ground and screams when I say no. Our morning tug of war is just one example of many. I'm at the end of my wits. Why does my child listen to everybody else but me? What do I need to change? Would be greatful for any constructive advice!

PS. She is an only child for the time being

Kids sometimes keep their most intense emotions for their mothers.

Kids also like to observe adults showing interesting emotions and your frustration and upset might be fascinating for her.

What do you do when she says no? Do you do all the nursery dressing and drop offs? Can dh do some?

We've had some mornings like these and they're awful. There is no one single answer to it, things that might help:

Incentive eg my kids get to watch some TV if they're ready in good time, or use star chart

Make up a game like pretend to be an animal putting the clothes on

Read a book with her on your lap, once she's into it then make her put something on or off before you read the next page
Do not show anger and upset - she gets dressed. If she absolutely refuses then you blithely say you'll take her in her pyjamas. Take her to stand outside the front door in PJ's to see how silly she feels
It can also work to back off and leave them in the room for a minute then go back in and try again
You need to break the mood basically, don't get caught up in a confrontation

For the walk there, take a pram and she goes in it (forcibly if need be) as soon as she mucks about, then stays in until you get there. Or is carried. If she wants to go to the park etc say fine, we'll do that at the weekend/on the way home