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20 month old out of control

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JSmama · 30/09/2022 22:08

Our 20 month old appears to have hit the terrible two’s early. He has started having wild temper tantrum’s that consist of him screaming, throwing himself around the place, banging his head, sobbing, throwing things, pulling my hair and pinching. He’s also started to have these tantrums during the night too. He’s never been a good sleeper as he’s always woke up at least once a night but we have a consistent bed time routine which we’ve had since he was 10 moths old. He manages to go to bed ok but now wakes every two hours screaming and throwing a fit! It’s been like this for 2 months now. I have contacted the HV who advised this is all age appropriate and to try the disappearing chair technique at night time. We have tied this but nothing is working and it’s not getting any better. My partner and I are at our wits end, he’s very upset watching me struggle with our son and he is also struggling to cope/connect. I don’t want this phase to break our family but we are cracking under the pressure of it all. We don’t really have any family close to help out and both work full time so are absolutely exhausted. I feel like I’m failing my son and failing at being a mother, forever questioning if I made the right decision to have him (which I know sounds horrendous and I feel so guilty saying it) is there anyone out there that can relate?!

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PritiPatelsMaker · 01/10/2022 08:09

Sounds like he's absolutely exhausted. Is he still having a nap at Nursery?

JSmama · 02/10/2022 06:16

Yeah, he has his afternoon nap at nursery.

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TwinMama88 · 03/10/2022 10:24

I'm sorry you're struggling so much. I think we've all been there at some point, blaming ourselves and thinking about our life pre child.

I've got twins and I'm a single mom, and they had this phase too. Headbutting the floor, biting themselves, screaming uncontrollable for no apparent reason. It was horrendous.

But it passed. They're 2.5 now and we still get tantrums but we don't get the headbutting or have them to the same extent as before.

I spent a lot of the time going outside in the garden for 2 minutes and just breathing to calm myself, they can be really triggering especially when we can't seem to help them.

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