Should I be concerned about my granddaughter? She has just started reception this term. Was previously in the nursery of the same school. She had some problems at nursery with too loud noise, overwhelmed in large groups etc. Nursery worked with her on this, gave ear defenders, etc. Was better over time but then started having meltdowns every now and then and hitting other children, screaming and sometimes hitting adults too. Parents and nursery worked together to deal with this and she would go for weeks at a time with no problems until another spate of troubles. At home was not as bad but did have screaming tantrums from time to time but never hit her sibling.
Now in reception she was fine for first couple of days then had another meltdown, hitting kids and teachers. This has now just happened again - pushed one kid and hit another. There are always precipitating circumstances but her reaction is out of proportion. When she has a meltdown at home or with me she always wants a hug afterwards. Recently she has started hitting herself when she is angry at home which is distressing to see. Apart from this she is very friendly and outgoing, confident, extravert. This stuff doesn't happen all the time quite often she is absolutely fine. Sometimes I wonder if she has some kind of ND, but Mum and Dad think it is just behavioural and are trying to be stricter with her, and because it is intermittent I am inclined to agree. They have been to GP who is taking a wait and see approach. Any comments/advice welcome. I look after her a lot and she is hard work sometimes!