Really looking for some advice.
LO has complex congenital heart disease due to this we have a really calm life. Solid routine with regular naps and to be fair we’re pretty boring! But it works … if we don’t do this DD gets over tired easily due to her health conditions and this leads to blue spells and general unwellness.
Anyway my mother-in-law just isn’t on board. She thinks DD shouldn’t even nap (she’s not even one yet and has two naps) so doesn’t nap more often than any other child her age really.. it’s just we do stick to the wake windows pretty rigidly so she doesn’t get overtired and we do keep her pretty calm. Don’t get me wrong we have tons of fun, DD is always happy and smiling and laughing. She’s a really happy, contented and calm child.
Until she’s with her grandparents.. my Mother-in-law is so so overstimulating it hurts. You would think she was on something the way she is with DD. The most hyper grandparent you’ve ever seen. She completely overstimulates DD from the minute she gets there. She has cartoons on a massive tv, whilst she’s singing and clapping and shouting say nana say nana, saying DDs name on repeat and asking her to clap. It’s just so much!! From the minute we get there until we leave she doesn’t give DD a second.
My poor baby is displaying every sign she’s had enough, she waves her hands in the air, she looks away and zones out, she rubs her eyes like she does when she’s ready to nap (but she’s just woken up - she just can’t take anymore hyperactiveness) and then in the end she cries for me.
My mother-in-law is super sensitive. I’ve tried to tell her SO many times in nice ways, subtly and then not so subtly now but she just isn’t calming down. What can I do? It’s at the point where me and DH dread going over. DH is useless when it comes to saying anything to his mum because he’s been controlled and shouted down by her all his life.