Teen that doesn't engage

[Myster]

Hi,

I have an almost 15 year old son that barely talks to me these days and it breaks my heart. I do everything I can to be the best mum possible. I feel like he actually hates me sometimes. It's probably just his age but I feel like we hardly know eachother it's awful

I think teens are programmed to do this to start to become independent adults.
I have a 16 year old who doesn’t need my presence at all apart from the occasional chat. I’m using the experience to teach me to be more aware that I am a person not just a mum living vicariously through my daughter.
I’ve found that if I want a chat, a car journey is the best time for it. I wait for her to talk and let her lead the conversation.

Yes I was thinking the same, instead of me trying to push a relationship with him I'm going to let him come to me from now on

what does your son say?
what's going on in his life?
what would he say if we were to ask him?

Same here! Is there anything you both enjoy doing that you could do together from time to time? The other thing that gets DD (15) engaged is to get her talking about (and playing) the music she's currently into.

Nothings going on he's just quite reserved, his dad is the same and I accept that he's his own person. He's happy, has lots of friends, has a girlfriend and loves school. Just me I think, having trouble with accepting he's growing up

It's my son, I try to engage with him in all different ways. We actually had a chat last night so feel better. It's his birthday next week so hopefully we can do something nice. We've just been away on holiday and I loved spending time with him but back home he's not interested. Just growing up :)