Miserable baby - 3 months

[BigMama32]

Baby is 14 weeks and for the first 12 weeks of his life he was a happy baby and I’ve always read crying reduces after the 3month mark. Giving that he barely cried I was feeling very optimistic. All of a sudden we have a miserable baby, cries for hours on end when he barely cried before. We’ve been to the doctors nothing medically wrong with him he’s just had a personality shift!

Anyone else been through this? How long does it last, it’s so upsetting seeing the change in him and I’m struggling to cope with the super high pitched scream cry.

I had this. My baby was largely grumpy for their first three months anyway, and then utterly miserable from three months up to six months. I will not look back in the first six months fondly- it was absolutely soul destroying at times and it made me terribly anxious about things like baby groups, as all the other babies were always so content and it would just make me feel like shit.

I don’t know what changed things ultimately but I think it was a combination of weaning and them learning how to sit.

Nobody can tell you how long it will last and I found it better to have extremely low expectations about if/ when it might resolve. Unfortunately, some babies are miserable for a very long time and for others it passes quickly.

Reading other threads about high needs babies helped keep me sane, as did just doing what was necessary to keep them as happy as possible. In my case, that meant being out of the house nearly all day every day walking for bloody miles & miles, as they were just much easier when they had lots of constantly changing things to look at.

I do hope it passes quickly for you too, parenting is so much harder when you have a difficult baby so be kind to yourself .

we have a class we attend every Thursday and honestly the first two hrs just screamed through and I spent the class walking up and down the corridor consoling him and then sobbing in car with him afterward

Hey I'm currently going through this, how did your baby get on? Was there a reason for it. Feel like my baby has completely changed last ten days. He is 3 months now.