hey, I'm very new to this website.
So I asked so many people for advice family and friends and those random mum you get to talk to on playgroups so forth.
So the thing is my 9 year old driving me up the wall! I been giving her chores simple ones and they get half done or not at all,
Her chores are:
Hanging her clothes up (hers only)
maybe set the dinner table up if dad not here
Tidy her half.of the toys.
pick up after her (drink bottle sweet wrapper so forth)
put her dirty clothes in the basket. All ways finding them in living room bath room landing 🙄
I may ask help if I need someone to pass me wet clothes while hanging clothes out but my 6 yr old dose that too.
That pretty much it, I do the rest.
I aint one to nag I just do it and just won't give her treat end of the month or any pocket money.
Her chores is hanging her clothes up there not alot mostly school uniform end of the week but I notice that she now just keep hiding them behind wardrobes under her little sister Teddy and under her sister bed! ( they have bunkbed) down the side of her sister bed or in other draws none hanged up I only just notice how bad it got till she tell me she don't have any uniform or tops or jumper I'm like I got new clothes the other day where have they gone. she said she clean her room up and bring down and put the charity bag out side and bin bag somthing nagged me to look in them before they go so I did went through the charity bag there was all her clothes she said she hanged up and also new uniform shirt in the bin bags I'm soo tired of this. she don't even clean up after her self I'm for ever telling her put stuff in the washing basket than having your clothes all over the living room or bathroom floor! can you make the table up for dinner she reply yes mummy then I go in room twice while cooking keep eye on my 6 yr old my oldest aint even done it to point I done dinner nothing has been done she goes oh I forgot 😒 when to busy playing with the toys and her switch . let face it short and sweet she is not doing hardly anything!
I have taken her switch away completely I taken pretty much everything! but the tv in her room because taking that away mean taking it away from her little sister aint fair but she now watches tv with me hr before bed and her sister would have to sit in the living room watch what ever her dad watching with no toys or go to bed early.
so here my 6 yr old she help me sort out the sock, help with tidying the toys that her sister can not be asked to tidy her side.( so me and her dose all the toys) she help me put washing in the machine I'm 4month pregnant. my 6 yr old make her bed every morning (Yes I got go over it lol) my girl 6 brushes her teeth with out needing to be ask she go brush her hair with out asking she dose lot of her chores if I ask her but every morning she there ready when I wake up she growing to fast 😫 but she super helpful she even help her nan and grandad when she stays with them when my oldest just don't do or want to do anything she been asked she rather just lie say it been done.
My 9 year I got to be keep remind 4 times have you brush your teeth have your brush your hair (knowing she hasn't she would lie says yeah I did ) you haven't go up and do it.
my 9 yr old since young just refused do anything I'm to point of just letting her move in with her nan (Yes she dose the same at her nans place to hide toys in her sister bed and her clothes and foot wear than just putting it all ways. I just don't know what going through her head)
I do treat borad, and stickers, pocket money. And once a week they get movie night once a month if they did chores with out needing to be asked 3 times or and having best behaviour no talking back get to get a toy with the money they earn or a day out that they choose. So last time was London see dinosaur
Swimming
butlins
So forth....
my 6 yr old get prised alot because she dose everything! ( Yes we prised the 9 yr old when she dose stuff finally or when she dose good in anything) her big sister don't see why she getting all the treat and the days out so forth and is now picking on her little sister! to point I'm ripping them apart. I done 1,2,1 days out I spoke to her she keep saying it not fair I explain she 6 don't do big girl chores but they are closer to yours. So the only thing she don't do is hang up her clothes or sort out dinner table. she so tiny. pretty much it.. she hovers because she love doing it. But my 9 year old just don't see it I now started looking at her jobs making sure they are done now where I just trusted her and didn't look but it seem to get alot worse at this age and being 4 month pregnant Iv been put on high risk by midwife,. I get moan at my partner and family and friends to leave it but if I leave it, it won't get sorted out and they are scared that I end up in hospital again.
I do ask her after she get 1 charnce to fix it but she never dose she move it some where eles.
She thew big fit threw her self on the floor, first time I ever seen her do that it was shocking. she never make big deal out of anything. This was because her little sister finished her home work and started playing with her toys she done her reading and hand writting and all my 9 yr old had to do was her maths home work I given her 10 min break then all sudden she got the hump throw her self on the floor yelling why she get to play toys! I want to do that I say because she did her home work it different than yours i explained to her loads like different year, age, and so on. but feel pointless because she dont see it or really try to understand. (Her maths was not hard she knew it all! ) I'm pretty much at odd ends I tryed everything to talking explaining to just doing it or leaving it but that aint happening because it will get worse. my mother well take her on for awhile she says but shouldn't be like that.
Everyone see how she is and see her back chats and being rude to me and all the death staires people call them and so forth she is very smart girl she top of her class over her age level.
not bad at school what so ever. People say I spoiled her way to much before her little sister was here but she was only 3 so I like some advice no rude comments thanks!! and sorry if phone done auto lol x
I said to partner that it seem to get lot worse since we said your going have another sibling but everyone said I was just blind and it been like this for good 2 yrs now. 😞 I'm really trying , I suffer from sleep problems and being pregnant made it alot worse now lol.