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is two too young for the naughty step?

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spottyzebra · 22/01/2008 19:09

what do you think?

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ClareVoiant · 22/01/2008 19:18

not at all, started ds on the naughty at about 20 months. it does work for us.

S1ur · 22/01/2008 19:20

I would say so. But I don't use naughty steps etc. so am probably not the person you want to respond

Have you tried alternatives? when and why did you want to time-out?

mummyloveslucy · 22/01/2008 19:21

I think it depends on the child. Some two year olds are quite advanced. It's important that they realise why they are there. If ignoring or distraction aren't working then maybe the naughty step would be a good idea.
I use the "count to five" method on my daughter, I tell her what the punishment will be if I reach 5 eg naughty step or taking away a toy she's holding. I very rarely get to 5. 2 is a very challenging age, and it is frustrating for them as well. Aswell as diseplin at this age it's really important to give them loads of praise when they're being good.

emmamaw · 22/01/2008 19:22

My daughter is 33 months and we have just started using the naughty stair with great success. Usually the threat is enough to get her to tidy her toys. You have to see it through if you threaten it, and you have to choose your battles. Don't just threaten it all the time, as the punishment may be preferable to what you're asking them to do.

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spottyzebra · 22/01/2008 20:16

sorry its not for me dd is not even 7 months ,asking for one of my best friends

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sophierosie · 22/01/2008 20:18

DD is 2.8 and have just started using it and it works very well with her. I tried when she was younger but she got too upset and I don't think she really understood the concept.

Desiderata · 22/01/2008 20:20

Sorry, I have a problem with naughty steps at any age.

The damned things make me shudder.

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spottyzebra · 22/01/2008 20:21

why do have a problem with it ? geniune question ?

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Desiderata · 22/01/2008 20:30

They're reminiscent of the dunce's hat, or similar, old-fashioned forms of humiliation.

I have no problems discipling my child; I use communication and actions, but to put him on a step seems ludicrous to me. Ludicrous and humiliating ... for both parties.

emmaagain · 22/01/2008 20:36

I have a problem with the naughty step too.

Slubberdegullion · 22/01/2008 20:37

Desi...remember those delightful portable naughty steps, with lights and timers?

I am also not a fan, mostly because they do not work as both my DC figured out very quickly if they got off the step, farted about, ran in and out and on and off the damned thing they got far more attention from me (repeatedly taking them back), which is after all what all children crave (attention) than if I used other techniques.

justbeme · 22/01/2008 20:40

My Hv told me to use a chair facing away from "the action" - that was from 2. I had to hold onto DD from behind and just say "No" if she resisted. Then after 1 min for each yr of her age do the explaining bit. I think at 2 a child wouldnt sit on a stair and then you'd get into giving the child more attention by telling them to get back on it.
They soon learn what they have to do and then in the end you dont have to hold onto them. It worked for me - probably only used it for a few months until the behaviour passed.

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spottyzebra · 22/01/2008 20:49

when i was at school this kid that always used to wet himself the teacher would make him sit on a potty on the table
suppose that was trying to humilate him

desi why do you think sitting on the naughty stp is humilating? agree that it could well just give more attention though

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mamasara82 · 22/01/2008 20:53

My daughter is 20 months and I have been using the naughty spot rather than step which is really good. She used to throw her food on the floor and I was sick of cleaning it up and no matter how much communication or action I did she didn't stop until the naughty spot happened. I have only had to do it 3 times in the last 4 months.

Spoo · 22/01/2008 20:53

We have used the 'timeout' technic. Started on DS1 at 20 months and he wasn't too young to start. He is now 3 and we are unlucky if we have one every two weeks. Gives time for everyone to cool down including myself. Took him sometime to get that he had to stay put as well. I would also perhaps not use a step but a corner. Then you can 'use' the timeout anywhere. Used it in David Lloyd couple of weeks ago. Go for it, but I would recommend that you ONLY use it as a very last resort and try distraction or persuasion technics first.

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spottyzebra · 22/01/2008 21:21

i think its too young for her ds as hd doesnt seem to understand

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mamasara82 · 23/01/2008 05:43

Well if you ever watch super nanny she says from 1 you can start using the naughty spot. My childminder also uses this technic.

FairyMum · 23/01/2008 06:47

Super nanny says from 1 you can use the naughty step? Jeez.....

I also have a problem with the naughty step. Same as already mentioned.

DelGirl · 23/01/2008 07:04

just started with this and dd is 2.9 but I don't call it the naughty step as I don't like the term but do call it time out.

mamasara82 · 23/01/2008 07:17

Naughty spot not step. I don't call it naughty to my child either but its all the samething.

Blueblob · 23/01/2008 11:26

I've put my two year old on the steps, it's a good place in this house for time out. Situations like being very silly at meal times, won't stop throwing something then we put him there after a warning. It works for him to calm down and realize he's missing out on the action. I can't remember when we started, I think it may have been 18 months but he has a big brother so had a clue what it was all about. With his big brother we started around 3 and it works very well for him for that silly, can't calm down behaviour.

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