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5 year old just said she hates me

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HR313 · 29/08/2022 20:24

Long story short, my mum has put my 5yr old to bed as she came over for dinner. Bedtimes have become so stressful in our house as we also have an almost 1yr old to deal with. We’ve been out all day at a local maze and to see an outdoor puppet show in the afternoon. We’ve had tea. The girls bathed and now in bed, however, my eldest started her night time delay tactic malarkey and I told her off saying no she cannot have anything more to eat it’s bedtime. She then started crying asking for my mum to read her stories. I said 1 book and then it’s bed. When I walked out I overheard her tell my mum ‘I hate mummy, she’s not the best’. Which has made feel completely broken. We are also currently going through house renovations so I’m stressed to the max, on top of going back to work in a week after being on mat leave for a year. I feel completely exhausted, run down (also sleep deprived as the 1yr old sleeps/naps terribly) and have no patience. I just feel fed up with life and have no control over anything. Sorry for the rant but needed to get it off my chest.

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Lilactimes · 30/08/2022 07:11

hello.. it sounds so hard what you are going through. So many major life stresses. Tell your daughter that even though She’s a bit cross with you, you love her so much anyway. Can you get a bit of a break? Half a day and go and sleep at a friends?
sometimes everything looks better after a sleeP xx

PritiPatelsMaker · 31/08/2022 19:53

I think it's pretty normal for them to say things like that, if she says it to you, I'd just reassure her that you really love her abs always will.

It sounds as though you've got an awful lot on though. Does the 1yo wake for feeds still?

Cheeseandcrackers86 · 31/08/2022 21:16

Wow! Congratulations on making it 5 years without hearing this before from her. It's never nice to hear but girls especially say it to get a rise from you or even just get what they want. It's hard I know but just try not to take it personally. I usually just answer with 'that's ok I realise you don't like me much right now but I know we love each other and I like you enough for both of us right now'

Remember it'll stand her in good stead as she matures to feel free to express these feelings in future. It means you're doing well mamma. Just keep going and tomorrow is another day x

Theaker94 · 03/09/2022 22:27

Honestly humour her. My son told me he don't like me because I'm a d.head other day.

He's 3. Just humour her. I replied saying "I don't like you when you are swearing so I feel same"

Stick to your guns. You're in charge. Just like any kid. They go through emotions when stuff don't go Their way.

You're wee one is older so she will understand more context than my man. So just humour her. Eventually she will know it's not working:)

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