Help, my 19 months old ds wants to pull my hair and pinch my face especially at bedtime!!

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Hi, for 3 nights now, ds is very difficult and been wanting to pull my hair real hard and scratch my face which hurts...started by saying no, it hurts dont do that...many many times...until i started "crying" for fake but then he will cry too and when i hugged him, he pulled my hair again...then i decided to say no, it hurts and gave him a small tap on his hand...he cried even more and vomited....daddy came upstairs (he loves ds and always protects him)...he told me off especially as ds has been unwell this past week and not eaten and for once in a few days he had something in(ds is a very diffivult eater)...AIBU???
Is there a way of dealing with it? ds only went to sleep at11.30pm as he kept crying/playing...etc...
i am exhausted...is it due to the fact he had an injetcion last week?
don't know what to do....dh always seems to think i am too tough on him...AIBU?

Oh god, join the club. I wish I knew what to do. DS has been like this on and off for months.

I have this problem too. We cosleep and DS likes to hold my hair as he sleeps. That's ok but when he's going to sleep or waking up in the morning he starts pulling it really hard. I haven't really found a solution. Tried to give him a doll with hair - he wasn't interested. If I think he's being naughty at bedtime, rather than just comforting himself, I get up and leave the room for a few moments. In the morning, I've taken to pulling the duvet over my head when the pulling starts and announcing 'I'm in the cave of tranquility'. Then Dh pulls his duvet over his head and says 'I'm in the fortress of solitude'. I hand DS a bucket of toys we keep next to the bed and if we're lucky we get an extra 1/2 - an hour snoozing in our caves while he plays. I'm not actually sure why I'm telling this - I think this kind of sharing means it's time for bed - but you're not alone! If you find a solution, I'd be interested.