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DD won't let me stop breastfeeding

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Inthesky42 · 28/08/2022 16:18

She's 13 months. She will take the odd formula bottle at nursery (not much) but she will very rarely drink formula offered by me or my husband. She's cmpa so we can't give her cows milk, both oat and soy milk make her sick so we currently try to feed her nannycare, which she can tolerate and that's what she has on her cereal every morning.
I've been trying for months to stop breastfeeding, but she throws the most epic tantrums for hours, refuses to eat or drink anything else, until I worry about dry nappies / her making herself sick through crying (nothing will calm her down) and give in. I don't know how to stop. I still feed her 2 times in the night and if I've ever left her with my mum to go out for dinner with my husband (who she's very happy with and spends lots of time with her) she will refuse to drink formula / go back to sleep at all at her 10pm feed until I rush back to feed her. She's surely too old for this but I also worry maybe she's so attached as she isn't getting enough calcium etc from her diet given the dairy allergy.. I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do. I feel like I'm failing on all fronts as my family keep judging me for feeding her for so long!

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SurinatheFirst · 28/08/2022 17:46

Does she drink expressed milk from a bottle?

Inthesky42 · 28/08/2022 19:01

@SurinatheFirst she probably would but I'm unable to get anything more than a few mls now unfortunately.

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PritiPatelsMaker · 28/08/2022 19:06

It does sound hard especially given the CMPA as she's likely to associate other milks with stomach pain.

Could you start with some gentle night weaning? If she's not taking extra calories in the night, she may be more likely to start eating in the day.

I'd also drop the idea of giving her a replacement milk. I know the idea is to BF or give 300 ml of formula but if she's refusing all milks, I'd look at replacing the calcium, fat & protein from other food sources.

Mumofboys16 · 02/09/2022 06:01

Are you open to a dietician? If not see if you can get a referral for advise around ensuring her dairy intake or equivalent is high enough.. You'll then hopefully feel confident she's not missing out which will help when you want to stop.

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