Almost three year old melt downs

[NML2000]

Dd is almost three in November and I’m finding she’s having more and more melt downs. I’m really struggling most days to get out of the house. On good days she’s so good, and todays like today she’s woken up in a bad mood after a full night sleep, kicked off at almost everything. Told me she was tired so put her in bed for a nap but she was messing not even attempting to go to sleep so after 20 mins I said I’d take her downstairs, she still continued so off downstairs we go but she’s screamed the house down begging to go back to bed. It’s continued for about half an hour about anything ived asked, and I’ve held it in for so long before I get ended up sobbing.
if I walk away during a meltdown she screamed pulls me, gets so angry, and I cannot deal with the screaming noise it really gets to me and I have no idea what to do. She can kick off at anything and I know it’s standard child but I’m at a loss!

Could she be unwell at all @NML2000 or is this pretty normal for her?

How's her speech & language?

She seems well in herself other wise and these melt downs have been weeks. She goes through good periods but when she’s on one you know about it. She’s not wanting naps atm even though you can tell she’s tired some days, like today she got up early and told me she wanted to sleep but just wouldn’t drop off.

her speech and language is really good, at the two year health visitor check they did say she was ahead for communication and seems really bright so it could cause more tantrums with her emotional side being behind but I just don’t know how to handle it I don’t want to be soft and let her get away with things but at the same time I don’t want to be shouting it doesn’t help. When she’s that way out she’s just so over emotional and she can’t even think

I really feel for you. When they start dropping the nap it can be really hard, especially if they are tired.

Do you have a quiet time after lunch instead? My DD would sleep about every third day if we went out for a walk and she was in the pushchair, usually on the school run.

She liked some quiet time though so something like an audio story and a snuggle with me on the sofa or books or something like playdoh.

The one thing that calmed her down if she was a bit out of shape was cuddling her. It might seem a bit counter intuitive to hug a screaming toddler but it worked for us