... does it happen 'naturally' or should i put our collective feet down?
We have left it too late. DS is 4 and has been coming into our bed every night at some point since he was 18 months old (bar about 3 random nights which need not concern us).
If we don't make a big fuss about it, will it actually happen at some point without us doing anything?
To be fair there are quite a lot of nights where he comes in at 6.30am or so, which is morning of course, but given that dh and i are enormously heavy sleepers, it still feels like the night to us. However, we could obviously live with this, but I dislike the 3am appearance. DH heads off to ds's bed which mucks up his sleep as dh is 6'4" and can't stretch out on ds's bed. DS does usual invasion of my space and plays with various bits of me . I know this sounds horrible of me, and undoubtedly it is, I am a stinker if anyone tries to wake me up. Probably if I were a SAHM all would be well. [guilt].
However, given that I am considerably nicer if allowed unbroken sleep, is there anything I can do? Too late for stairgates, he'd just climb over them and fall down the stairs IMO. DH can't lift ds without doing his back in, actually neither can I now, he's enormous.
Perhaps we should just learn to enjoy it?