My daughter is in a small, one intake a year school. She is friends with a little girl in her class, and is a completely different child with this little girl than with anyone else. My daughter becomes rude, loud, defiant and really over the top and silly, and it gets her into trouble at school. She isn't like this at home, or with other children that we meet up with out of school.
The teacher has separated them in class and has noticed a marked improvement in dd's behaviour. We had the whole family over for a playdate yesterday as the mother keeps coming to me in the playground to say that my daughter is bullying the older sibling of this friend, and I wanted to get everyone together to see if we could all work out a solution, as my daughter is usually very caring and thoughtful and I do not want her being a bully!
The change in my daughter's attitude yesterday was actually shocking to see, she mimicked her friend exactly, and I was embarassed and ashamed by dd's behaviour (which I addressed with her at the time). We have also had other girls at school say that my daughter isn't allowed to play with them because this friend drags her away from them and won't let her interact with other classmates.
What on earth do I do? The mum of the friend played on her phone in the lounge for the entire 4 hour playdate so nothing was hashed out, while I was elsewhere in the house trying to entertain the children. She then sent me a message afterwards to say she was upset by something my daughter had said. The girls are going to be in the same class for another 5 years so I need to figure this out somehow. I feel totally out of my depth!