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9yr old jealous of little sister

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Lyssie37 · 08/08/2022 22:09

I have 2 daughters who are 9 and 6. I try to keep everything fair they always get similar things etc don’t buy one without the other getting something unless it’s a birthday but obviously they also have their own friends. My youngest has been invited to a play date at a friends house and my 9 year has been literally stamping her feet in a huff saying I should ask the mum if she could go to. Keeping in mind she doesn’t even know this friend as my youngest hasn’t seen her out of school yet so my oldest doesn’t even know what she looks like. I explained to her that she can’t do everything her sister does just as her sister can’t do everything she does like when she has sleepovers at her friends house. Does anyone know how to best approach this? She does it with a lot of things like if her sister is invited to a party and she gets a right attitude even though she also gets invited to parties from kids in her own year at school. I have always done it where if it’s a soft play party or trampoline park I pay the other child in and sit with them so they still go but are not with the main party. I have to do that anyway as I’m a single mum. She is just becoming a very jealous girl. My youngest has a birthday party next week where I can’t pay my oldest in so I thought we could spend time together and go out for food just the 2 of us but still she isn’t happy. I’m getting fed up of her stamping her feet every-time her sister gets something she doesn’t. Please tell me this is just a phase 🙈

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PritiPatelsMaker · 09/08/2022 19:22

It's hard but id just keep repeating that it's not possible and she has two choices.

She can be nice about it and get some time with you without her Sister being there and do something lovely together or she can carry on not being very nice and have nothing.

Ponderingthemeaningoflife · 10/08/2022 11:16

My eldest DS can be like this (6, youngest is 3) which is ridiculous because he gets so many more fun activities purely because of his age, 3 year olds don't have many friends and my little one is pretty content with his lot.

I think it might be partly personality, some kids are just more aware of what others have. I know this Christmas, when my eldest gets a Nintendo Switch and his younger brother gets something significantly cheaper/less exciting because he just doesn't want for much, eldest will be very aware of what gifts youngest has regardless!

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