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2.5 year old aggression

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Louisec128 · 29/07/2022 12:31

OK so my 2.5 year old's behaviour is starting to get the best of me and testing my limits. He's very sociable, confident, speaks very well, and appears to be developing as expected (advanced according to the hv). So my issue is everytime he's wronged, he slaps/screams/bites. It's really frustrating because he knows it's wrong because if other kids do it he says so. I can (most of the time) understand why he gets annoyed in these situations where he reacts this way, for example if a child won't share with him and he says "share" and they don't, he reacts violently, or if someone "ruins" or "intefers" with his playing, but he seems to not understand that his reaction to these situations isn't acceptable. I repeatedly tell him, "we don't bite/scream/slap", and he immediately says "I'm sorry"...but then does it again, it's as though he can't help but react on impulse! He's an only child, but I am currently pregnant. Any recommendations on different ways to nip this in the bud? Hoping to start him in nursery soon a few mornings a week but also anxious that he'll behave this way there, although I'm sure it'll help too. Any books to read to him at bedtime? Any consequences I could try implement?

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Easywhenyouknowit · 29/07/2022 18:53

You say you tell him “we don’t bite, hit or scream” but do you actually tell him “No” or tell him not to behave that way?
Do you tell him, when he’s telling other children to share, that he should wait his turn?
reading a book at bedtime about behaviour really isn’t going to teach him not to bite, scream or slap!

Newtorhis · 02/08/2022 09:27

We are also having very similar problems here. My daughter has just turned two. She is in nursery full time so can't say how she interacts with her peers, but I have seen her pinch and bite her cousin if he takes a toy from her or she doesn't get her way. She also pinches me and her dad but often these instances are completely unprovoked... E.g we're having a nice time reading a book then she'll just pinch me out of the blue. I've tried saying "No. biting /pinching hurts mummy" etc but it's not getting through. Her dad has recently started putting her in her cot for 2 mins when she does it as a "time out" but not sure if that's beyond her years? We've also just had a baby (the biting /pinching has been going on for months before he was born though) and yesterday she pinched him, and today threw a book in his cot which is obviously a concern. If I ask her if it was a good or bad choice to throw /pinch / bite she says "bad"... And will say sorry.. but sometimes then laughs so no idea if she actually understands. She also has good language for her age so not as if she's very frustrated with communication. oh and she also sometimes pinches herself and pulls this crazy look on her face before she pinched us or herself. Anyway... Sharing my experience to let you know you're not alone and also following for any advice !! X

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