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3mo... I can't do this anymore- words of encouragement needed!

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yetihed · 18/01/2008 19:44

My beloved little boy is being really hard work at the moment. He may have a tummy bug, he certainly is constipated, he can't get to sleep without me, partner does his absolute best but doesn't get home from work til 7.15 and is then gone at 7 in the morning.

He (DS) has woken me every hour/ hour and a half for the last 3 nights and I am knackered and feel sick.

I feel completely inadequate and crap. Please don't give me advice- I have had enough of that top last me a lifetime... but I'd be really grateful for words of encouragement and fellow moaners!!!

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Scootergrrrl · 18/01/2008 19:46

You're not inadequate or crap - you're the best mum your little boy is ever going to want.

I always found it helpful to repeat "this too will pass, this too will pass" at moments of extreme stress
Can you lie in tomorrow if your partner is not at work?

Karen999 · 18/01/2008 19:46

I will give you loads of encouragement! Yes, it is flippin hard! Especially when they are ill. But to your lo you are the centre of his universe and if he could he would tell you so!!

Keep going....you are doing a great job....xxx

Bluestocking · 18/01/2008 19:47

{{hugs}} to you. It does get easier!

Kbear · 18/01/2008 19:47

Poor you, sleep depravation can make you crazy and I remember it only too well. I don't have any advice but I can heap on the sympathy and encouragement and tell you that babies have phases and this is a bad one and before you know it DS will have moved on and be sleeping more and you will feel better. In the scheme of things it's early days, that won't help, but it is true so hold that thought.

You're not crap either, it's not always easy, just be kind to yourself, sleep when he sleeps, even for an hour, stay relaxed if you can, plenty of warm baths together, might help his tummy as well as soothing your nerves.

ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 18/01/2008 19:49

Oh yetihead. I know it feels like this will go on forever and that things will never change, but they do. They honestly do.

He's not well, so is having problems getting and staying asleep. He is probably as tired and frustrated as you are. It will pass and things will get better. But at the moment he needs love and milk.

Hold on in there xx

MegBusset · 18/01/2008 19:49

You are not crap, nor inadequate. You are a fab mum and it does get easier, I promise!

chankins · 18/01/2008 19:49

MIne was a nightmare at 3 mo, but by 6 mo he was sleeping right thru the night and at 8 mo now he is an absolute angel, and that awful sleepless time seems so long ago, you just forget about it. It could be teeth, it was with mine, once he got the first 2 he was so much happier.
Just remember it seems to last forever at the time but soon enough it will all be over and he will be sleeping . It does pass.

KaySamuels · 18/01/2008 19:54

Oh I really feel for you! You will get through this, I remember feeling like this too, but things do get easier I promise.

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cory · 18/01/2008 20:24

Oh, you poor thing. Lots and lots of sympathy!

BumperliciousIsOneHotMother · 18/01/2008 20:40

yeti. it's really hard isn't it? tbh I only really started to "enjoy" dd at 4.5 months. it does get easier but even as they get older it's normal to have bad days. dd is 7 months and today i went to a new baby drop in group, the woman said to me are you ok? and I just burst into tears

sleep deprivation is the pits though. you WILL get through it, it won't be this hard forever.

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yetihed · 19/01/2008 19:52

Thanks everyone... we had another tough night but I felt so much better with your words ringing in my ears. xxxxxxxxxxx

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accessorizemybaublessanta · 19/01/2008 19:56

lots of hugs for you, yetihed, I hope the nights get better for you soon! Poor little thing and poor you, so hard to carry on when it's like this. Sleep deprivation makes you think all sorts of things that aren't true - you're not crap or inadequate, it's just bloomin' hard with a newborn and extra hard for you at the moment.

Gibbsy · 19/01/2008 19:58

It does get better, my ds is six months now, and I remember the 3 month age well, he was a nightmare. I used to cry a lot.....

He is now a happy smiley baby (well most of the time )

needmorecoffee · 19/01/2008 20:02

sounds like mine and she's 4
It does pass and goes on to new and more annoying things.

helenelisabeth · 19/01/2008 20:09

You can understand why in some countries they use sleep deprivation on prisoners as torture because thats what it is, torture! I have a 4mo who is a good baby and has not caused me too many bad nights but after her needles, she doesn't sleep for a week. It throws the whole equilibrium of the house because when your tired, you cannot function. All I can say is that it truly doesn't last and he will get over whatever is bothering him, you will soon be back on here looking for advice on the next milestone!

Good luck and hope you get some well deserved rest. Being a mummy is the hardest job in the world isn't it?!

On another note, if he is still out of sorts by Monday, I would nip the Doctors to get him checked out.

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