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darrendavies87 · 24/07/2022 11:37

Hi all,

I have a 2 year old daughter (nearly 3) who I co parent with my ex. My daughter has attachment issues with either myself or her mother. I have a partner who I was with before my daughter was born so she's been involved from the very start, and things between us and my daughters mother are very amicable. When my daughter is at mine, if my partner, my parents, anyone tries to talk to her, she grunts and ignores them, if they try to play she screams at them, and she wants me to do everything. This has happened for a long time. If I go to the shop, then she will talk and play with my partner just fine, but then as soon as I'm home she goes back to being all about me and ignores my partner. I've spoken to her mother and she does the same thing at her house. My initial thoughts were possibly autism, as there are traits in my family, but I'm unsure, as when we go to play areas, she is very sociable and will go and talk/play with any child. Does anyone have any suggestions? I really don't know what to do! TIA

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PritiPatelsMaker · 24/07/2022 21:38

It just sounds like separation anxiety. The absolute best thing you can do is to not force things. Just give her as much time and attention as she needs. Do everything for her, absolutely everything and let her confidence build up.

darrendavies87 · 24/07/2022 22:49

So when you say do everything for her, do you mean me her father? Because that's what I do now, and this has been going on for a long time

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PritiPatelsMaker · 25/07/2022 06:34

Yes I mean you! Wink

Do everything for her and don't try and get her to go to other people. If it is separation anxiety, which it does sound like, if you try and get her to go to other people it will just make the situation worse. She needs to know that you're there for her. Once she's got that figured she'll start feeling more secure and will go to others.

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