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2 yesr old not talking, and becoming increasingly difficult to deal with in a lot of aspects.

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rose9826 · 21/07/2022 11:38

My 2 year old son (2 years 7 months) doesn't yet talk, babbles a lot in his own language and has a few words but is definitely behind. He recently had his 2 year review where HV said hes pretty much on track with everything, apart from talking obviously, and anything he's behind in she thinks will resolve when he's able to communicate better. She referred us to speech and language for a phone appointment to begin the process.
I'm just getting increasingly worried to be honest. He loves independent play, and whenever I try to do an activity with him like painting, colouring, trying to teach him colours numbers etc he's just not interested AT ALL, gets annoyed and clears off. I just tried to do colouring with him and he just kept throwing the pens everywhere, I just feel like crying.
He also is going through the hitting and kicking stage, but he just taps me randomly all the time, not even when he's been told off, it's like he's trying to get a reaction from me so I try to ignore it, but it's very frustrating.
He also has become so picky, when I first weaned him he would eat everything, ham and cheese sandwiches etc, but now its ridiculous he won't eat anything! I've just given him a crumpet with cream cheese for lunch which he used to love and he won't even entertain the idea of trying it. He also refused spaghetti last night which he usually absolutely loves! I'm at breaking point really, every single thing is such a battle recently, and I don't know whether to be worried. Why won't he just eat? Why won't he just play? I feel bad saying why is he not more like a 'normal child' but that's how it feels.. I've got loads of friends with 2 year old's and they are all so much more progressed in every aspect than he is, I feel like I've completely failed as a parent. And I've also found out that I am pregnant with my second child recently too, and now I'm thinking am I going to fail this one too? Or how am I going to cope with a newborn and a toddler who can't communicate, is really defiant and just difficult?
I obviously love him more than life itself, would take a bullet for him and there's no doubt about that.
Just feeling really down and stuck.

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Felinewoman · 21/07/2022 14:04

First of all: you haven't failed. You love him and you're doing your best.
Regarding communication: he has been referred, so the ball is rolling. That's good.
Food: I think toddlers do go through phases and suddenly hate things they used to love. Mine does it, always had....frustrating but pretty normal. I know a few toddlers like this.
Play: maybe he just isn't into painting? I feel that toddlers often get defiant when feeling the pressure. Let him guide you. What are things he likes to do?

I am sure you're a great mom. Toddlers can be little devils....and test you to the max.

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