How do you discipline?

[lisalou1401]

My daughter is 6.5 and lately feel like she is 16. Her attitude can be stinking and she point blank refuses to listen to the word no until I reach boiling point. This is mainly with me, she doesn't mess with DH. Well last night he had enough, after asking her to do something and getting ignored not once, twice but 3 times he took her tablet off her and sent her to bed. (It was bedtime nearly anyway). Told her the sleepover she was having on Friday is not happening anymore.

She was so upset and calling out for me and begging. It broke me. I think I just need to toughen up but she's my only child and I hate being tough on her. I get taking the tablet and having a YouTube ban for a few nights but I feel like cancelling the sleepover was too much. I hate her being so upset.

Do I just need to "get a grip"? How much punishment is too much / not enough?

She's a loving sensitive amazing little girl. My god she can push me though!!

look up super nanny because her approach is great and she brings both parents as a team dynamic into it.

if you already spend time alone with her building your relationship and connecting then great do that more but bring up behaviours your dislike outside of just the moments she’s doing them and make rules clear and be consistent.

not sure if there were warnings and chances before she got that punishment but that needs to happen too. From my own experience a little emotional blackmail doesn’t go a miss either show how much she’s upset you as that really got to me as a child!

Taking her tablet off her and sending her to bed is fine imo if she was ignoring because she was using the tablet. We've got a system in place of warning and then 'groundings' which is no electronic devices, including TV, for various lengths of times. I wouldn't stop things like a sleepover unless there was a specific warning about it first.

Basically make sure she knows what the consequences are in advance, make them as specific to the behaviour as possible, and always follow through and stick to them.

Also it doesn't hurt to let her have input into what appropriate consequences are. She might disagree with what you say but I think the dialogu

Sorry, the dialogue is important and she might be more willing to listen if she's had a say in it.