8 year old girl having awful trouble with friendships...

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8 year old dd had a bff in school for 3 years becoming expecially close after covid.. The same bff has dumped her in favour of a new friend & they both ghost dd..
She's quite young for her age & gets excited easily which turns kids off. They look at her like she's an oddball😢 she's so beautiful, kind & a little princess but she's struggling socially big time... Also the kids on the road treat her the same & it does upset her...

Hello, I've had similar with my DS9. Friends with a lad his class, another lad comes along and is really nasty to my DS and has turned his friend against him and now they run off laughing and tell him to go away. Breaks my heart. I'd be mortified if my DS was ever that mean to another child.
I've started asking him to invite other boys home to play, to focus on new friendships and things like that. Does she do any out of school activities like Brownies etc? That's a great way to make friends. My son has built up a nice set of mates now so luckily doesn't seem to notice the mean ones as much.

I have her name down for girls brigade in September... It's heartbreaking isn't it.. Your poor son... Was so much easier when then were toddlers!

Awww your poor dd. I don't think it'd be unreasonable to chat to her teacher about this if you haven't already and see what they're planning. Fallings out and children growing and changing are inevitable but if children are bullying each other then this needs addressing. You can't force kids to like or play with kids they don't want to but the other girl's parents could have words with those girls about your dd's good qualities (of which it sounds like there's tonnes) and how their behaviour is likely to be making her feel. They could also arrange a joint playdate where all 3 girls can play and make friends outside the pressure and judgement of school if this feels appropriate. You can also talk to your dd about self respect and finding friends who appreciate her and pointing out that there's lots of other kids in the school to make friends with if this 'friend' isn't treating her right.

I'd definitely recommend clubs/societies too. My dd is only 4 but it's already really helpful doing dance and gymnastics. It helps them realise that there's a life and other nice kids outside school, helps them deal with being in situations where they don't know other kids and become more confident approaching others and helps them share a common interest.

I do hope things improve for her she sounds like an absolute sweetheart xx

Thanks so much for your kind words, really appreciate it as I've been worrying alot about her... She tends to do really well one on one but when a third child enters the equation she seems to get over excited & inevitably the other join forces & dd is effectively excluded.. Older children even 1 year older can't seem to tolerate her...