I have just relised ds will be going to nursery in September so....

[madmommy6]

I really need to get him out of nappies.I know it's a long way off till september but i do think i need to start.Also when did you stop using a highchair?
I worried i have kept him a baby to long.lol
He is 3 in july si nearly 2.5.

Don't panic, there's plenty of time

And don't think you HAVE to get him out of nappies for nursery. It's illegal for them to discriminate against children who aren't toilet trained so put that worry out of your head. The only timescale you have is that of your CHILD and when he is ready.

I think I'd wait maybe until the spring? Weather a bit warmer, he can be a bit less dressed! I set aside a week where I made no plans to go out, etc, so that we could do it with no pressure. As it happens ds just was good and ready, he got it the first day and we had only one or two accidents in the first few MONTHS! So in my view it doesn't need to be hard, or even 'training'. I just said to ds, you've got pants now so just tell me if you need the loo. And he did. And we didn't need a potty - went straight to the loo. So I do think if it's a desperate struggle, stick the nappies back on and try again later.

I think by 2 and a half DS was using a booster seat...he loved his. Can't remember exactly though.

No hurry, if he fits his high chair and goes in happily?

In the same situation as you and have gone cold turkey this week and put DS straight into pants. Been hit and miss but am just going to persevere. We tried a couple of times before xmas but he wasn't ready.

Haven't used a high chair since DS was two but he's quite a tall lad sits at the table fine.

Thanks ladies.I have tried a couple of times with the pants and he just wasn't ready.He is so different from the girls,i think they were out of nappies at 2.
The nursery is part of the school and the don't take them if still in nappies.They have just started doing a september only intake.So he will go to nursery this sept then school next sept.He will only be 4.2 when he goes to school.

I'm sure it will be ok by Sept madmom

Even if it isn't - I honestly think that legally they are not allowed to say they 'don't take them'. However by then I don't suppose you'll need to worry about that. I think my ds was 2 yrs 7 months when he did it.

He was also a v young starter at school - 4 yrs 1 month

thats exactly the same as me maddy.
mine was only 4.2 when he started school, he was 2.2 when he started play school.
heres what i did.
got 2 cheepy potties, one upstairs one downstairs.
took it into every room we went into.
Here is the strict bit:
EVERY 30 MINS, PUT ONTO THE POTTY OR LOO.
dont ASK if he needs to go, tell him its time.

go to the library get dead good toddler books, while on potty, get out book, look at book while on loo.

get at least a trillion stickers and give 1 sticker on a chart for wee, 2 stickers on chart for poo.
NONONBONONO pull ups absolutely no pull ups, they rubbish.
nappies or ickle tiny undies (Little peach is SO CUTE in undies...resist urge to squeeze little peach in undies...resist it!!)
just do it at home at first, dont stress about going out, one thing at a time.
make it funny, race to potty, act shocked when he has done wee on potty, tell him "no way will you be able to wee on that potty...no way" they love that..BIG BIG fuss when he does some thing on potty.
i totally understand what you mean about your boy bieng very young and little, mine still is only 4 and all of his peers in his class are either 5 or turning 5, its a shame bless.

We're pretty much doing what donbean does.
Straight into pants (not nap time or night time though)
Toilet every 30 minutes
Chocolate button for rewards
Lots of singing and dancing if we get a hit and a phone call to daddy
Stay in for a few days.
Give it a good week and see how you get on. If he's just not getting after a week I'd forget it for a month and then try again.

blimey. Reading donbean's post makes me realise how easy I had it!

me: "DS you have pants now, so if you need a pee or poo you tell me and use the loo"
DS:"OK"

end of story

have had a challenging ds in other ways though, honest, so no smug emoticon for me.

Hope it's as easy for you

I was pretty lucky with DD she was dry by night at 2, I was really shocked, but it was ehr chocie, she kicked off about nappies one day and never wore them again.

DS wasn't quite so easy, he was three in dec, put him in pants about 6 months ago, didnt do potties with either of them, they just carry them around and you get wee everywhere. I'd wait til it's a bit warmer then prime him, tell him 'Soon be time for no more nappies, so you'll need to tell mummy when your winky tinkles and go to the toilet'.

Then just go cold turkey, I think DS wet his pants about two/three times a day for about 3/4 weeks, then he just clicked.

He's not good at holding it still though, he'll say suddenly, in a shop, 'Mummy I need a wee' then he wees about 2 minutes later, so be prepared for mad dashes, and toilet breaks when out, always make him wee before you go out, and try to keep spare pants/trousers in your bag just incase.

I would only attemp it if he is showing awareness of having done a wee/poo and has the bladder control to do it. You can check this by taking the nappy off and seeing how often he needs to wee. If it is more than once per hour I would leave it. If can go 1-1.5 hours between each 1 then try it.
Don't use pullups as they are too much like nappies and confuse children.
I use the no bottoms at all for 3 days, if they start going to the potty then introduce undies only for a further 2 days, then introduce trousers when he is getting to the potty on most occasions. If he does not get going to the potty within 3 days I would stop and try again in a few weeks.
It can take a few attempts because they need to learn to recognise the signs that they need the toilet.

donbean good advice thanks.lol
tori32 i think i will try the no bottoms and see how he gets on.
Thanks ladies.