anyone got any ideas why my lo 2.3 cries when i take his pooey nappy away?

[bambam30]

just to say i have posted on another thread and got no answers so maybe i posted in wrong area, anyway my lo 2.3 has just recovered from really nasty sickness and runs bug that lasted 2 weeks[i don't know if it was norovirus-he had this bug before coverage on tv] and since the he really cries when i take away his dirty nappy to the point he actually tries to go and get it back whilst trying to take off jis clean one. what is strange is that he will come and tell me he done a poo but then we have this pantomime - i buoght a toilet insert yesterday and tried him on that [he wont contemplate a potty even tho it has just been left about for him he just says no and goes and hides it ] ihave never made an issue of potty nappy poo or anything so anyone got any ideas cos he reaaly does get disressed

Is his bottom sore? Does wiping sting/hurt?

his bottom does'nt look sore and i have trid swapping wipes and nappies just in case oh and distraction whilst doing the deed but he still gets upset

My ds used to get really upset when I changed his nappy, but that was because it interrupted his playtime to change it.

Children spend 2-3 years of their life in nappies and, if you think about it, the message that they receive is that it is normal to sit around in your pooey, wet nappy.

So it could be that he is just comfortable with the poo?

Sorry, I am not much help - I am sure that there will be other MNers with more expertise along soon. Good luck .

Is it when you're changing him or when you try to get rid of the nappy?

The reason I ask is that a little while ago a friend told me that some of the problems associated with potty training (which I will be doing eventually!) are because toddlers have never actually seen poo before. Its usually whisked away and something like dirty or whatever is said.

When she told me about this I started showing DD (21months) her nappy after I'd changed her. (sounds very strange when I write it down) Anyway now she always demands to "see it" and gets quite upset if I forget. Could it be something like that? He just wants a look?

Following on from what rantmum said - we have a box of stickers in the bathroom and nappy changes are the only time that she gets one.

If she's playing she hates going upstairs to change her nappy but will happily toddle up there when reminded about the stickers. She browses them whilst I'm changing her and we choose one at the end.

Works a treat

I read years ago that toddlers basically think poos are part of themselves , which is why a lot of toddlers have problem pooing in potties/toilets.

elfsmummy thats an idea to try i have to say i admit i maybe do say its dirty and we have to take it away i never thought though abiut that

My DS (same age) likes to watch me put his poo in the toilet (we use washable nappies so I don't bag it up). He waves bye bye to it then flushes it himself. He seems to enjoy this little activity. Worth a try maybe?

use a smily face chart and each time he goes put smily face on chart

and tell him what big boy he was and lets get the clean nappy on now and really praise him

my ds went through similar stage and this did work he loved his smily faces and felt all grown up

hope it helps i know different things work with different kids tried lots and this one worked