Development anxiety

[Sweetk0987poiu]

How do you cope with worrying about development?

DS is 6 months next week and filling in the questionnaire for HV it’s apparent he’s behind a lot on the gross motor section.

he doesn’t roll, sit, bear weight on legs, doesn’t push up on arms when lying, his head is still wobbly, will just get frustrated if you put toys out of reach and other than trying to grab with his hand he makes no effort to move for it.

I’ve been worried about development since he was born as he wouldn’t partake in tummy time. He still doesn’t really like being on his front and for most part will just lie with his head to side. He does have really bad reflux and is sick a lot of on his front or any general movement.

Another worry of mine is ASD as it’s in DH family (x2 close family members). I know 6 months is way to young to symptom check and a lot of autism traits are just things babies do normally anyway but he does show a lot of signs that Google give you for this age.

My HV is coming next week so I’ll tell her my concerns then but I’m just a wreck most of the time. We spend a lot of the day on the floor, practicing rolls and tummy time and playing but it just really upsets me when it doesn’t really seem to get us anywhere. I feel incredibly guilty if I feel like I’ve not done enough that day. I hate going out as it means he’ll be laid not doing anything in his pram or car seat. Then I feel guilty I don’t take him anywhere and wonder if that’s the cause of some of the social things he doesn’t do. I’ve only been to baby groups twice and hated it! I’m constantly comparing and other than lying there he doesn’t do much.

Also to add ds has a really flat head to one side (he’d only look and lie one way for first 3 months) GP said fine. So this doesn’t help with my anxiety of people think I don’t do enough with him 😫

Did the GP say the flat head is fine or did he look at the milestones too and take those into consideration?

I took him at 8 weeks and 3 months about him only looking one way and his head flattening and they just said that developmentally he’s fine and that babies just sometimes have a strong preference and the flattening will often resolve itself as he gets older. I said about not being able to push up on arms as around the 3 month time I had seen babies usually will do this and he said he’ll get there eventually ect ect

I'd trust your gut, if you think there's might be something wrong I would ask that you get a referral to a Paediatrician from your HV and if she can't do it go back to the GP and insist.

I've always had more success if DH came with me. It's sad but a lot of GPS can be dismissive with a woman, especially if she's a FTM.

hello, how are you getting on? This sounds a lot like my daughter and myself with the anxiety

@Gsm09 you might want to try @ ing the OP. She might not see your thread otherwise

Oh thank you @PritiPatelsMaker
@Sweetk0987poiu
hello, how are you getting on? This sounds a lot like my daughter and myself with the anxiety