Concerns raised by nursery about my 3 year old DD

[Eviesmum29]

DD age 3.2 has always been very advanced with her speech and was speaking in sentences by 2, However her nursery have raised some concerns about her development with learning, she's unable to recognise numbers and letters (atleast that's what DD says, when asked she says she doesn't know and just stops engaging)

There is a family history of autism (DH, DS & DSS) ADHD (Me & DS) and dyspraxia (DSS) so we're a wonky bunch and it wouldn't surprise me if DD was neurodiverse, but do you think the above is a cause for concern at her age?

I wouldn't have thought an inability to recognise numbers and letters at just 3 is a cause for concern at all (I'm not an expert though!) Did the nursery not mention anything else? Seems a bit odd.

She’s still got a whole year of nursery before starting school. I’m not expert but I wouldn’t be that concerned. Also, ‘don’t know’ is my DD’s classic go-to when she doesn’t want to do something. She’s even convinced her teachers that she couldn’t do certain things before when it was just that she didn’t want to or liked the attention of being given extra help.

I wasn't at all concerned myself as shes still so young. The nursery manager has alot of experience with special needs though having been a health visitor and then worked in a school for disabled children so perhaps she's hyper aware of any delays and particularly on the ball.

She said she's going to have a chat with Early Years and see what they say/think.

Like your DD Random I suspect it's not that she can't learn it but that she doesn't want to do it. If it wasn't for the family history I'd think nothing of it but I'm going to be subconsciously looking for signs now 😐

Have you had her eyes checked? My cousin was really bright and articulate at 5yo, and appeared to be reading well but seemed to have a confidence issue so she liked the books to be read to her first or she refused to read them...
Turned out she needed reading glasses. her wanting the books read first meant she memorised them, including when to turn the pages.

Check her eyes, but also make learning letters fun.... get some foam ones and throw them on the floor and look for the "b", ("who finds the "b" first gets a blue smartie"), write the letters on stickers and she can put all the "s" into the picture of the sun, and all the "h" into the picture of the house, or put a foam letter next to something beginning with that sound (so "f" for phone counts) , let her type on the computer (that's what taught my dd her letters) and watch things like alphablocks etc.

I'd also get her eyes checked, our DD struggled and part of that was eyesight.

Has she had a hearing test and been referred to SLT yet?