I came back from a medical appointment this morning to find that my 3 year old girl's hair has been cut off by my 5 year old girl, whilst my husband had been getting the eldest ready for school. After the initial shock, I started feeling furious, because I thought that 5yo must have done it because she is jealous of 3yo's hair - this is my issue right now re. feeling angry, and upset about what I believe the motivation was. My eldest has thin curly hair that hasn't grown long yet, 3yo's is thick long and straight. 5yo wants plaits in her hair like other girls at school who have long hair, but then is always disappointed her plait isn't long and thick. Then 3yo wants the same as 5yo but her plait is long and thick and 5yo doesn't like that. I've had conversations regarding being happy with own hair. 5 yo is at school now so I have not spoken/reacted to her yet. Just as well because I'd probably have shouted and gotten very upset at the time. Of course she shouldn't have had the scissors. She had got them out the art box. When husband found hair cut off, 5yo denied cutting 3yo's hair. Then he found the scissors in the bed under the duvet with the thick bundle of cut hair.
What is the best way for me to respond to this when my 5 yo finishes school? Right now I want to rant and rave to show her how upset I am, but of course this is ridiculous and not a good way to react. Maybe ask her questions, why she done it? Any tips on how to not be reactive if I don't get a satisfactory response?
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Angry to calm mummy help - 3yo long hair cut off
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orchardgirl4 · 06/07/2022 10:16
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