Over-confident Girl of 7 years

[devon2018]

Hi All, our current class teacher has labelled my daughter as "over-confident". Now as a parent, I do see her cocky and I told the teacher on PTM that she is a bit cocky as she lives with Teenagers. I am observant about this and will keep reminding her on her cockiness. Now the teacher has used this and labeled my daughter as "over-confident". She gets very good remarks from her friends for being a very friendly child and everyone wants to play with her. I just received a lovely letter from a girl in her bag saying how my daugther is the most helpful friend she has (it was so lovely to hear). So things are not stacking up - either my daughter is over confident and mocks her friends or she is kind?

As a mother, I don't want to raise my kids cocky. But if a girl is confident is it correct to be labelled as over-confident? Is it wrong for girls this young to be confident? Am a bad mother? I am so confused today.

Sorry I'm completely confused. Did the teacher say that she mocks her friends?

My apologies. Maybe I did not explain well. No the teacher just said that she was over-confident.

I think the teacher perhaps didn't explain what she meant properly or you could be reading things onto what she said?

I'm not a huge fan of labelling girls as over-confident but I wouldn't assume it meant she was unkind.

Your DD sounds empathetic, kind, courageous and resilient which are all good skills to have

Thank you for your kind words! I spoke to other parents and seems like teacher has mention such words to their daughters as well. But I feel reassured that I am not a bad mother.

I also spoke to my best friend and she said the same. Don't let your daughter drop her confident persona.

Again thank you for reassuring me!!!!

Sometimes it can not be what they say so much as how they say it.

Both my girls were inclined to state things they knew to be right in a not terribly helpful way, and the tone could be very uncompromising.

It took me quite a lot of work to get them to see that "You must do this" could put people's backs up, whereas saying "What about if we try..." or "That sounds okay, but what if we do this..." or "Oh yes, I've done it before and this works" rather than make it sound like their way was the only possible.

Also not backing down if the majority vote wanted to do it a different way but they were sure their way was best. Often they were indeed correct, but the other way was as good, or nearly as good, and the confidence in which they stated it had to be done their way wasn't always helpful to a group dynamic.

But they were also known for being really helpful and kind, the one others would go to for help because they knew that they would help if they could.