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ADHD?

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Jo26 · 16/01/2008 15:43

Hi not sure if anyone can give me some advice. I have 2 DDs and the youngest (3YO) has always been a handful. I have no idea what the symptoms of ADHD are & I'm worried the doctor/health visitor will dismiss my worries. She has outbursts for no reason, screaming & crying. She doesn't like interacting with my elder DD (6YO) & often hits her. She has recently started refusing to walk to or from the car as her "legs are tired" and often bangs her head on the floor or other objects when she is frustrated. She is quite tall for her age & has an excellent memory & speach is almost perfect. Just want some advice on what I can do. It is making me not want to get out of bed in the morning

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3andnomore · 16/01/2008 18:38

Hm, I must admit, that to me your dd sounds like a pretty normal 3 year old...it's one of those phases that they can go through, ime...
just try to keep calm, don't give attention to her when going of on one, and try to pick your battles carefully...
not much help, I suppose...

Acinonyx · 16/01/2008 20:34

Why would you think your dc has something when you 'have no idea what the symptoms are'? Doesn't sound remotely like it to me - not that I'm an expert.

My2Weegirls · 17/01/2008 10:35

hi jo26. i think your dd sounds like a normal 3yr old.

my DD1 (who has just turned 3 today) went through a phase like this and i think - fingers crossed we are just coming out the other side. i think a lot of her behaviour was triggerd by a few things including new baby sister, her age and not wanting to wear a nappy at night. has anything major changed in your dd's life?

we realised that we were treating her older than she was so have put more rules in place.

the one thing we found was making sure that we are consistent. bad behaviour is ignored (as far as possible). praise the good behaviour.

hitting/kicking/scratching/biting is an immediate time out and a favourite toy being put away. other behaviour that can't be ignored is 1 warning then time out.

if she was to tell me that she didn't want to walk from the car i would either (depending how mush time i had) leave her, or tell her that i will count to 3 and if she does not walk herself i will carry her.

sorry need to go dd2 is screaming...

twocutedarlings · 17/01/2008 11:14

Hi Jo,

Does she go to nursery? ifso whats she like there?

Kitti · 23/01/2008 16:23

If her legs hurt then it might be worth making an appointment to see the podiatrist. She may be acting out because she is frustrated that she has a pain that she can't understand or it could be a simple attention seeking "ailment" - however getting it checked out will put your mind at rest and if there is a problem in the future you won't feel guilty that you didn;t look into it further. Seeing a podiatrist is a pain and can mean a wait but alot of children do suffer with their feet and complain that their legs hurt and it's not always a child being lazy.

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