I will browse this section after posting for advice too.
I'm at the end of my tether, not angrily just lost now and I can't work out if it's me or her.
My child is a wonderful loving bright girl.
She's going through some stuff with her behaviour though and it's taking its toll.
She's been referred to be assessed by children and young people services but there's a long wait for an appointment.
She has always had a short fuse for want of a better word, noticeable from age 2.
At nursery they commented they could hardly hear her if she spoke to them and that she was very quiet. I used to laugh and say the usual 'opposite at home!'
Now she's at school and things were much the same. She would save up any feelings she had during the day and lose her temper at home, I know this is her safe place and I'm her safe person and that's why.
However she's now no longer even getting home before meltdown starts, it's starting at the school pick up and going on until bedtime sometimes.
She will become furious at basically nothing and scream, hit (me or siblings) cry, flail.
She will not speak to adults unless they are very familiar to her and is considered quiet at school with adults but more confident with a small group of friends.
She's barely eating at all, I've tried everything I can think of. I've been told she's underweight now, I don't let her know though, I've just been giving her what she will eat because if I try to insist she would rather not eat at all.
Her dads not around at all, he was until she was 3.
I've tried so many different things to help her, at the moment I've been going with cuddles, comforting and firmer voice re hitting and lashing out (done all the very firm and consequences bit, it didn't make a difference)
I don't know what im hoping for really here on this post. I've cried and cried tonight, I feel so bad for her and wish I could sort it out. It's painful to see that she's so distressed.
I keep hoping it's a phase