Reception Child Misbehaving

[MoodyTwo]

Hi All
I am hoping you can help.
My DD (5) is in reception, we have had a few comments about bad behaviour, nasty words and today it peaked as he hit another child 'forcefully'
I am not sure what's going on with him, he is the sweetest boy, and then the angriest little boy the next second ... it is so bizarre
I am not sure if his screen time is the reason so we are going to limit that to 30 mins per day , but surely that can't be the only reason behind such behaviour.
Would talking to the school be something that's done, he is my first so I'm really unsure of what to do, I really want to nip this in the bud as he is the sweetest child, just this angry streak is shocking
If anyone else has any ideas
We do a reward char (he's had his stars this week removed, to start again)
He's had his tablet removed all day
We will limit his use age to 30 mins per day
We get such a strong reaction to punishments that I think they work but after a couple of months we get another bad thing happening?

he's had his stars this week removed, to start again
please don’t remove reward stars that have already been awarded. Not only is that too harsh a punishment, but he will feel there will be little point in him trying to earn any in future if he feels they can just be snatched away again.

Oh no, I have already done it !
I thought it would be ok to remove them and he can start again to do another 7 days
He gets a reward (£2 toy) at the end of a good week... so I thought it would be better to start the week again rather than count out the whole week
What do you think ? Was I too harsh?

Yes. Stripping a reward off him that he has already done well to earn is quite mean. You’ve moved the goalposts for his reward. how can he trust that you won’t remove them again and again so that he never gets his reward?
by all means give short term consequences for misbehaving but don’t diminish for him the good things he’s done by taking his stars away.
speak to the school and ask for advice by all means, I can’t believe they actually said “bad behaviour” though. They shouldn’t be making a child think they are bad!

Ok so I have him back his stars from Monday and Tuesday, I just didn't give him one for Wednesday and he said he understood and it was fair
He wrote the teacher as well as the child a letter to say sorry
And he had his table taken off him yesterday.
Oddly he's not once asked for his tablet today so I'm enjoying the colouring time with him
I think it is my fault to be fair, I've been too stuck with a newborn ... so I'm trying to think of things to do not involving a screen while I sit down with the baby

Hiya I agree with the other mums and happy to see that you have given him back his stars because positive reinforcement is so important! Instead of just the screen I suggest getting him a colouring set. This may only distract him for a little while, but anything to reduce some screen time is good. It's just very important to keep on rewarding those good actions so the likelyhood of repeating good behaviour increases.

Hi OP, you’re heading into another school year obviously but I think yes, you absolutely must speak to school about this. You need to get to the bottom of what is setting off this behaviour in school, especially if he’s not like this at home.

I would ask for a meeting between his old Reception teacher, his new Year 1 teacher and you, for early in September.