controlled crying?

[franfoxy2003]

I have always believed in the controlled crying whilst in bedroom/bed if my DS has had everything he needs. I have been told by my mother (who may i add is very interferring) that this is not right. To be completely honest if i didnt 'control crying' I would never have any sleep or anything. I check on him after a few mins to make sure he is ok etc etc.

Does anyone else have any thoughts on controlled crying. He is 22 months and I still do this at bedtime/ nap time. Am i right in doing this?

I used cc with ds and I remember the first time I was in the kitchen consoling and talking to the baby monitor! My mum could not stand the sound of him and gave me a hard time. But now, at almost 3 he is reallty good at soothing himself and others and is pretty independent. Latterly I talked through his emotions with him, 'I hear you crying and I know you are cross, but you are a very tired boy....' etc etc. He was then in the hall for 'time out' when and as and now if he is reving up for a hissy fit he often takes himself off, lies on the floor and returns settled after a minute or two.
I look at crying as sometimes a way we comunicate when words dont do it. If he is basically ok, just crying and he is secure, as Im sure he is, I dont think itll do him any harm