"Ta" or wait for "Thank you"

[kiwicath]

My son has just turned 11 months and I find myself saying "ta?" (as in "thank you?") when I give him things or take things from him. I've had a few murmerings from my husband that I shouldn't be talking to him in baby and should just say "thank you?" I'm thinking though that it's never too early to learn a few manners and in a few months he should be getting a handle on it as well as saying it. "Thank you" won't be in his vocab for ages!!!! Any thoughts??

No worries then. In answer to that then - no, I always used the word thank you in full with DD, as did her nursery and our family. Her version of thank you, said without prompt but in appropraite ways and times, did sound more like "ta" thank "thanks" though. I gueess everyones child just talks different.

Now I just need to know how to re-learn DD's language as sunce going to a Sheffield nursery she is developing rather a broad accident, like this week's phrase being " Can I have mi dinner, etc" What happened to MY - whch is what we always say - that one must have come from nursery" Argh! Oh well, I guess she will re-learn to use MY as she gets older and maybe her accent lessons!

Just not something I give a fig about...

Totally with you there mum2girls.

god what a load of prejudiced bollocks. My childminder taught my dd2 to say 'ta' and I thought it was funny and sweet that she knew she had to say something.

She says 'thank you' now in a nice middle class accent in case you were worrying.

EXACTLY!

i say ta, its a colloquialism

its the message behind the word thats important.

i think ta is a lovley work and i use it a hundred times a day to everyone from shop keep er to managing director - they know what it means and the message behind it even though i am very far away from my home town - no one has ever pulled me becuase i am being respectful of someone elses feelings by using this term.

Enid,

That's what I meant to say (the prejudiced bollocks bit) but I hadn't quite drunk enough budweiser by that stage. I'm sorted now though. Agree - prejudiced bollocks!

Hula, I always said 'thank you', and didn't mind what I got. Fank, Tank, or even Wank you would have made me happy

when all said and done ta or thank you is just a way of expessing that someone has given you something, we except dada and dont wait for daddy so ta is fine in my book

Well now I've picked myself up off the floor cos I disagree with people I've always seemed to agree with before

WTF???? Why is it prejudiced bollocks disliking the word Ta .. I hate it .. I didn't use it with my DS (who actually went to full time childcare between the ages of 6 months and 17 months) and he NEVER said it

IME (which is a snapshot of 1) it wasn't a natural part of his development

And prejudiced or not I shudder when I hear adults say Ta ... I just don't like it (I'm not a southerner either)

So there

The question was whether she should start using the Ta word instead of Thank you .. my vote would be a resounding NO

Sorry but I hate the word "ta". It makes me cringe. I also hate the word "nan".

I dont know why except my mum hates them as well.

i must say i dont like adults saying it but to me its just a stepping stone,

I'm shocked that people (and yes you Twigs )'hate' the word 'ta' but don't seem to bother about the 'F' word eg 'WTF' 'FFS' and other such expletives - very strange!

For god sake it is just a word. They are hardly going to walk round at 5 saying ta are they. If it helps your child communciate then what is the problem?????

Can't believe there is actually a 'debate' on this!!! It's just up to the individual isn't it?

Look on the sn threads and see how many mums whose children do not talk would be over the moon if there child said ta!

Agree BH - surely it's better than taking something with no acknowledgment at all?

irrelevant blossomhill

@ jools

I don't know why but is was just natural for me to say it. Children often shorten words when they first start talking. For example ds would say gee - for get it and wup - meaning I want up. I knew what he meant and it meant we were communicating which was great.

Twiglett - sorry???

Why are some people being so horrid about others over such a simple question?

If you're not interested in answering the question, then why bother slating those that have?

I get really pissed off, when Mumsnet threads turn out like this, it is uncalled for!

I agree smelly melly I was just putting my perspective and certainly wasn't being nasty. I don't come on here for that and will certainly not get drawn into any nastiness!

Jeez, WTF!
Soon as they do start to say thank you, they will acquire a mobile phone from somewhere at some point in their childhood and then revert to TEXT TAlK! Wat is dat al about!? Tongue in cheek, but nevertheless a thought to ponder on....

I would never have said that had I not drunk the best part of a bottle of wine . Sorry.

But I really don't mind about 'ta'

BH .. its just this was a discussion about your FEELINGS about the word Ta

I appreciate and understand there are many children with special needs regarding speech and devlopment but fail to see why that is relevant to this discussion (much as I wouldn't bring up DH's mobility problems in a discussion on countryside walks .. its just not relevant)

that's all I meant