Is this just my kid or…?

[KO2018]

I wonder if this just my toddler but honestly I just feel what is the point of toys? Or books?

She’s got absolutely no interest in either. I don’t think any toy has held her attention for about 20 seconds max.

There’s just no chance of her doing any “independent play” at all, she’s not happy unless I’m there in the room to interact with her 100%.

All she wants to do is play football or climb up and down the stairs, and I still can’t leave the room even to make a cup of tea no matter how many toys she has.

Sure she’s a lot of fun but it’s so frustrating and the house is a complete sty.

She’s 15 months old - is this a developmental thing or just her personality? I see parents with kids sitting playing quietly and I wish I know their secret.

I don't think it's that unusual and I'd say true independent play or prolonged concentration at this age are quite a big ask tbh.

With books get into the routine of cuddling up at bedtime or snacktime to read. Most of my reading with my 4YO is still done with a snack and a cuddle on the sofa. Also if she doesn't want to listen to the book just read a couple a day anyway whilst she's zooming around the room. She'll gradually become more interested and concentrate for longer I promise

I think with toys you have to be led by them to a degree. It sounds like she's very physically engaged atm so the best thing you can probably do is nurture this as best you can with things like ride on toys, swings/slides/climbing frames and trips to the park. You may find if you wear her out with this kind of play she's more amenable to doing a puzzle or having a 'tea party' or helping her dolls get dressed.

It's hard at 15MO. I remember it being the trickiest age with my 4YO as they're so active and full of themselves but mostly lack the attention span to engage with you for great lengths of time. I promise though that if you just keep going and put the time in she probably will learn a bit more joint attention and to properly play independently as she gets older X

Thanks @88milesanhour this is great advice