my 3.5 is not talking at playschool but chats away at home

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PLease help me! My dd is so chatty and lively at home, but she does not speak at her playschool, which is worrying me now coz she will be at school at next year and im worried about her not fitting in. They have told me she will talk to only one of the teachers, otherwise she points or makes noises. Is anyone in the same dialemma?

how long has she been there. My dd1 has been going for 6 months now and spoke for the first time last week. I think they just get a bit overwhelmed with the noise, people etc and have to gain a bit of confidence.

She is 3.5 and her previous playschool she was there 3 months and would only talk to one teacher, she started next door at the nursery last week and they have all aske me if she talks at home, because she wasnt muttering a word. Its really worried me coz I have heard of selecive mutism

how old is your dd

my dd is 2.5. I wouldn't worry too much she hasn't been there that long and is still young. Some kids are shy. dd2 will run up to anyone and start stroking them and babbling like a moron!! dd1 has always been quiet and takes a good while to come around. Remember these people are new to her and you're not around as an anchor. She's just finding her feet and her confidence. Just ensure she is happy there and communicate with the teachers.

Yeah, I feel a bit better now, Ive been so worried. I get fustrated coz I know she is bright but she is held back by her extreme shyness. Ive been speaking to the teachers every day but Im starting to feel like im being a pain. I always tell her to speak before I kiss her goodbye, im wondering now if I should not mention it to her coz I dont want her to be under pressure, but at the same time I need to encourage her to talk

My ds was exactly this age when he went through a phase of refusing to speak English (we're bilingual). Very confusing for his mates, who couldn't understand why he wasn't speaking to them any longer, and very worrying for my thinking ahead to reception. I felt reassured though when I took him in to a play at the infants school and he leant over to me and whispered 'when I go to this school, I'll start speaking English'. And he did!

I worked for a short time at a local pre-school with 3-4 year olds where 1 of the little girls was a selective mute - she would chat away at home, but at nursery she didn't utter a word - the way she was introduced to me was this is ... she doesn't talk and they didn't expect her too - they just let her not talk or communicate in anyway - I don't want to sound big headed but within 2 days I had her chatting with me - she only did 1 day a week - I just expected her to talk back point etc - and she did - and then she was a chattermonster and a giggle monster

My dd is 3.3 and she will answer questions from the teachers and play along with the other children but doesn't seem to talk to them.

Try not to be too worried, this is happening to my friend's dd at the mo. She is 3.5 also. She is really chatty at home, but when my friend went to speak to her teachers to see how she was getting on, they told her that she doesn't talk to anyone and if she needs the loo, she just pulls one of the teachers there!! The teachers couldn't believe it when my friend told them that at home she tells her family all about school and pretends to be a teacher. I think she is just a bit shy, and this is how your dd probably feels. How is she if you meet people away from your home? Is she shy then?

Thats amazing coz my dd pretends to be a teacher at home and loves going to playschool, she will tell me all about her day, but the teachers say she doesnt talk and follows one of the teachers about everywhere. She is shy with people she doesnt know, but close friends and family she is a chatter box. I have little chats with her at bed time and tell her to try and talk the next day at playschool , and she always says she will talk, but she doesnt.