Context: Our daughter came to live with us 4 years ago through adoption. We are very lucky that she’s settled in really well and is doing brilliantly in school. There is just one behaviour that I am struggling with is that whenever we go to visit someone inevitably at some point she will ask them “if they have something for her”. I know kids are always wanting things and are natural magpies for stuff but I’ve never known a child out right expect other people to hand over gifts every time we meet up.
Our family/friends aren’t the types of people to shower kids constantly with gifts and we are always showing that time together is more important than stuff. We’ve had conversations with her about it, we’ve asked her not to, given her consequences when she constantly asks other children for their toys.
She has never gone without so I am puzzled why she does it and what else I can do to make her understand that it’s not fair to put people in that position (especially other children).
Anyone have any ideas?