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Twigy · 14/01/2008 21:20

My little one has started to scream when people get too near him. His best pal is getting upset as he cant even sit beside him. Been told that he has sceamed all day at the other kids at nursery and kicked his feet to move them. Seems like very antisocial behaviour for an 11mth old!!!!!!

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S1ur · 14/01/2008 21:23

How distressing for him! (and you of course)
11 months can be a difficultage, separation anxiety can kick in and with that a growing sense of self as separate. Maybe this has something to do with it?

I'm guessing it will just pass, but there are probably things that could help, like taking it slow and moving gradually closer, or being encouraged to play alongside using something he really enjys like painting?

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Twigy · 14/01/2008 22:04

He is ok with me and my hubby, even with the dog but only on his terms! His little pal is really upset and it bothered the ladies in his nursery. His dad thiks its funny but im worried that this kicking and screaming is going to turn into something else.

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S1ur · 14/01/2008 22:23

Okay well, tackle the kicking and screaming separately.

Try finding a different simple thing he can do when he feels upset and then demonstrate with him and repeat and repeat!

Eg, when he starts to get upset, say something like

are you worried? let's move away, move away (smiling and helping guide him gently to place of safety)

Note I do not mean any kind of timing out! I mean finding somewhere like a quiet corner where he feels safe and could crawl too to avoid people if he wants too.

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Twigy · 14/01/2008 22:30

Do you think he is worried about something. i cant see why he has started this but as you say it could be a difficult age. Its as if he just wants to sit on his own!he is with kids nearly every day.

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S1ur · 15/01/2008 09:18

Ireally wouldn't be too concerned straight away, give him a bit of time, I'm sure it will pass

FwIW I don't think he sounds worried like you or I might worry. I just used that word in my example, "are you cross" would work just the same.

It sounds to me like he's a normal lovely baby who just might not want to play with everyone all the time. Which is perfectly reasonable, I don't either!

But being as he is still so very little he dosen't have many ways to let everyone know aapart from kicking and screaming.

It could be as simple as he is teething or figthing off an infection so feeling a bit more clingy and a bit less sociable.

Be gentle with him and give him a couple of weeks and then reassess.

DON'T WORRY!

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Twigy · 15/01/2008 09:57

gosh you seem to know your stuff! i think i do see probs that arent really there! He is just such a happy little chap and to be like this is a bit upsetting. Thanks for that, cause i was just going to ignore the screaming in case it was attention.

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FluffyMummy123 · 15/01/2008 09:58

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Twigy · 15/01/2008 10:02

no im twigy just joined last night sorry

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FluffyMummy123 · 15/01/2008 10:03

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Rosylily · 15/01/2008 10:18

Hi Twigy welcome to mumsnet! I have an almost 10 month old and mumsnet is the only thing keeping me sane. Come and join a postnatal group!

S1ur · 15/01/2008 10:24

lol that you think I know my stuff! I wouldn't ignore him he really doesn't have many ways to comunicate yet, but you know your dc and when he is being fussy and might need distracting or when he is upset and needed a cuddle and you are the best judge of that

You could join a post-natal group BUT make sure you still post in the general board because some of us (ahem) hide the p-n topic! (sorry rosylily!)

Rosylily · 15/01/2008 10:43

I just think that mumsnet is so huge and sometimes a bit mad, so joining a group can help.

S1ur · 15/01/2008 10:47

Course Rosylily didn't mean to offend, glad you have feel supported in your group. Just meant, I personally would end up missing any questions if they were only posted in a pn thread.

I doubt many people only stick to their group threads but it does happen on occasion and I was just underlining the importance of using the other topic lists if you want a broader response.

Rosylily · 15/01/2008 10:49

Not offended!

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Twigy · 15/01/2008 11:48

Hi rosylily just seen where you live on your profile. A fellow paddy. That is where i am origanlly from until a yorkshire man took me here as a souveneer!!! I get really confused when you talk about general board (is that this) and postnatal group! go easy on me girls im a novice.

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Rosylily · 15/01/2008 12:09

There are a good few paddys about you will find!
hmm, not sure I know how to explain mumsnet! there are various areas of interest and ongoing threads with the same few posters that you can get to know.
Or you could just throw yourself into the general chat. (where you may get slagged!)

Rosylily · 15/01/2008 12:13

Or you could do the slagging of course there are alot of very funny posters, you could just 'lurk' and laugh alot

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Twigy · 15/01/2008 13:02

thanks girls i feel a bit better now about my little one you have been most helpful!!

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