Lying Argggggggghhhhhhhhh

[charliecat]

DD2 is 6. Her best friend is going to Centre Parcs.
She said she was going too, on a different day.
DD2s best mates mum said "When are you going to Centre Parcs?" I said "We arent" Oh it just dd2 said you were....bla bla...
I bend down and said to DD2 and said theres nothing worse than a liar, what made you say that?
I was tricking her she said.
I said Its called Lying.

Now......her dad is a liar. If it cost ten quid he will say it was 30. If its raining there will be a flood....you know, thats pathetic, stupid NEEDLESS lying..like the porker dd2s just came out with.
How do I get it through to her that its not on and she will lose friends over this, if she continues to talk out of her arse?

Makes me feel ill actually. help.

Don't be extra-hard on dd because her dad is a liar - she's not him and not responsible for his behaviour. Although I can see why it would affect your reaction to lying.

My ds is younger, at fou, but also tries the 'I was just tricking you' line on me. Grrr. He gets a telling off with an explanation of what exactly he was doing wrong. I hope it will sink in, eventually.

He really didn't like it when I told him the story of the little boy who cried 'wolf' and wanted me to change the ending,

charlie it is annoying but I think very normal.

I know I used to do it as a child- a lot- I was shy and felt I had to get people interested, compete with them.

I learnt my lesson when it all backfired on me too often, as these things do.

It may be genetic though cos ds1 is often economical with the truth (to get his own way though, not to impress people). I just told him he will get found out and it is not worth it. He of course claims to know better (at 4 ).

Ok gonna google boy crying wolf story.
I really dont like lying. You never know whether they are bullshitting or not and its CRAP.
Knowing better at 4 lol

I bend down and said to DD2 and said theres nothing worse than a liar, what made you say that?

How harsh is that

Shes 6, she probably just wanted to fit in with her friend, i wouldnt say she was a 'liar'.

Maybe use the term 'telling fibs' in he future as a lie is much stronger and to me suggests deliberate manupulation of events - which I dont think a six year old is capable of - or at least wasnt doing so when she told her friend about centreparks!

I think you may be taking your anger at your DPs lying out on your daughter.

How sad.

Quite possibly I would just like her not to do it. Now or ever. Because I know how fecking crap it is when theres mistrust there.

Maybe just try to rememver shes only a little girl, and she doesnt understand all the rights and wrongs of the worlds yet.

Maybe you need to talk to your DP about his lying?

XP now Couldnt cope with the lying;)

I realise she is only small. But her friend said she was going saturday and she said she was going monday. She doesnt actually know what Centre Parcs is.
If she had gathered it was a holiday why didnt she say where she was going herself.
I cant think of an excuse or her and lying to fit in is just....well its pathetic.

'Pathetic?'

Just read that line back to your self ...

''I cant think of an excuse or her and lying to fit in is just....well its pathetic.''

Now please remember that your daughter is 6

Shes not some 17 year old smoking weed to be 'in with the in crowd'

Shes a six year old girl who just told her froend she was going on holiday to the same place.

I think you've blown this way out of proportion! If my DS had said the same thing I would have laughed to the other mum and not even thought about it again.

I cannot believe you are calling your daughter pathetic .

The lyings pathetic, not her
Its needless. I need to talk to her, see why she felt the need to lie, fib whatever you want to call it.
Her friend will have felt daft for believing her...and will question what she tells her in future....etc etc etc. I really dont like lying. I love dd. But lying I dont like at all.

I agree with Kitty. I think you need to relax a bit. Maybre she really wanted to go on holiday with her friend, or maybe her friend was bragging a bit and she said well, I am going there too.
You have to remember that children don't think in the same way that adults do. Ask her why she said that and address that issue rather than labelling her a liar

I hate the lying too, my kids do it, and i tell them the same thing, one day they wont be believed when they are telling the truth

stone me, i dont think they are ever too young to learn to tell the truth