DD, shy and quite...............

[warmsummersday]

Hi. My DD who is 5 now has always been shy and a bit withdrawn. She wont really say hello or goodbye to anyone and sometimes it frustrates me. She started school is sept and is getting on very well.

She wont even talk to my mum. She just ignores her and is really grumpy towards her and my poor mum tries her hardest.

Is anyone elses children like this?

Not with GPs, but generally shy, yes. Has much improved with age... school has given him loads of confidence.

I think when he was younger, at times, he enjoyed the power of being able to refuse to thank people/say bye etc. I stopped making a big issue of it and that improved, too.

HTH

MrsC is right.

My DS is a lot better now he's almost 7, but I remember being very embarrassed when he was in nursery and he refused to respond when other children said hello/goodbye. But, he was talking to them in nursery, just not outside. It seemed to be a lot worse when I was around than when I wasn't.

He was never like it with my parents, but was with my sister. If she just ignored him for a bit he would eventually come and talk to her. The harder you try the worse it gets.

Hi, I know just how you feel.

My dd was exactly the same, with the not saying hello to other kids, and also with GPs, all of whom adore her (she's the first GD on both sides) I think my poor mum used to be a teeny little bit hurt (though she'd never tell me of course) I think she had visions of her GD running into her house, yelling for nana, and giving her a big cuddle. Funny enough, she's always been more affectionate and closer to her grandads, both of whom are much quieter, definitely agree with perpetualworrier that the harder you try the worse it gets.

She's just turned 10, and is much more confident now.

Give it time, things we found helped were joining activities, though initially she would only join things if a friend was also there, but once there, makes other friends too. Things like learning an instrument are great confidence boosters.

My daughter just started high school, behaviour has changed, quite testy? Any tips how to handle?

zoeevzo

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