Hi y’all, my son is 20 month old and doesn’t talk yet, I’m thinking he could have a serious delay.
From about 4 months he had horrible eczema, i was holding him 24/7 he was red, sore, bleeding, we basically did nothing except doctor, cream, bath, sleep.
it got better and worse all the time, i was so sad all the time, we had tv on a lot because i was exhausted, i slept with him all the time because he was waking up every 30 minutes without exaggerating, we had no rutine, i wasn’t even thinking about his development like I should’ve, i wasn’t thinking about anything honestly, around 13 months we stopped milk and a few other things and he got a lot better, still some eczema but NOTHING compared to how it was, i’ve started taking medication for postpartum depression although id call it post eczema depression.
Now i’ve been thinking a lot more about his development and im really worried, he started walking the same month his eczema got better although he had delay with crawling and turning over.
But he doesn’t talk, doesn’t point, doesn’t answer yes or no, he does come with me when i say let’s go although he likes to go in a different direction but i think its normal, he talks in his own language seems like telling something but obviously not understandable, he has said mama, dada, doesn’t use the words daily though, but i’ve heard him call me when i leave the room just a few times, as soon as im back it’s quiet even though i try to encourage him to talk, he doesn’t really reply to his name, runs around the room a lot, sometimes screams, babbles a lot though, when im trying to show him something it’s sometimes hard to get his attention and he seems more interested in whatever he’s doing, he does have eye contact although not for long time, but to me seems like he’s lovingly looking into my eyes, not just staring, smiles when i smile at him, he shows his tongue when i show mine if that counts for communication, doesn’t seem to me like he understands when i say to give me the car or something, i feel like i’ve really failed, i am a first time mum and this journey hasn’t been how i imagined, we have taken the tv out of our daily life, im playing with him every day all day basically, trying to engage and use simple words as much as possible, he tried to say ball and apple but got out just the first two letters and doesn’t try again when I ask, could i get some pointers in regards how to try and improve his communication, i’ve talked to health visitor and she said we’ll wait until he’s two and see if he should get autism assessment, Im heartbroken because i truly think it’s me not him, I started my medication in december and i feel like I was living in a haze, like i didn’t see what im seeing now and im so angry at myself… He likes other children, we are now going weekly to children centre to a play group and he loves it. so im really looking for pointers to get him pointing, talking, communicating, anything at all, obviously i’ve looked at the internet but maybe someone has any advice, similar situations or anythingr.