Unbearable 11 month old tantrums

[hsalr]

Hey,

Been so stressed out lately. My 11 month old son is having so many meltdowns lately. They've become unbearable. Almost feel like crying. If I try pick him up he cries, if I put him in his high chair he has a meltdown , if I take him away from what he wants he has a meltdown. Feels like he prefers everyone over me. I've been reinforcing it what he can and can't do (in regards to safety) by saying no. He sort of understands this. I wonder if he sees me as the most boring person ever as everyone else never tells him no and let's him do as he pleases (e.g. play with the fridge, oven , unsafe furniture, go to the kitchen which is not safe as it's small and he could easily hurt himself )... I've said to say no to him no one listens. Is this why he's having meltdowns?

In need of advice... is this a phase? He's usually a reasonably easy baby..

[hsalr]

Also , worst thing ever is changing him. It's near impossible.

[PerfectPrepPrincess]

Same. Mines 13mo. Just their stage and phase I think. Toddlerhood !

[mum2boys1504]

Does he have consistent nap ans routine. I find my kids are happy when fed well and well napped. Google wake times for his age. He should be having atleast 2 naps a day at that age. It can take a few weeks of you've not already started s routine. Maybe check what time he should be going bed making sure sleep is prioritised...maybe he has sensory issues ? Maybe too much stimulation...maybe more activity or more attention ? X if not sure maybe speak to doctors...check forgeries must be a reason . Also try give yourself a mental health break even if its for a cuppa and a couple minutes minutes breathe x

[hsalr]

@PerfectPrepPrincess

Same. Mines 13mo. Just their stage and phase I think. Toddlerhood !

Really hope it is a phase! Can be so exhausting.

[hsalr]

@mum2boys1504

Does he have consistent nap ans routine. I find my kids are happy when fed well and well napped. Google wake times for his age. He should be having atleast 2 naps a day at that age. It can take a few weeks of you've not already started s routine. Maybe check what time he should be going bed making sure sleep is prioritised...maybe he has sensory issues ? Maybe too much stimulation...maybe more activity or more attention ? X if not sure maybe speak to doctors...check forgeries must be a reason . Also try give yourself a mental health break even if its for a cuppa and a couple minutes minutes breathe x

Thank you for your advice , really appreciate it x

I've got a pretty good solid routine I think. He's been going to bed later here and there , could be that? He's been pulling at his ears lately wondering if it could be teething irritation/ ear infection. Regardless it's sad to see your baby go through this. Wondering if it could be SPD related as he doesn't really like hugs/kisses and hits our face when we come near him. To be fair , he constantly has family & friends around every single day so that's a lot of people hugging and kissing him .. too much maybe?

Hoping this is a phase.. x

[mum2boys1504]

I would get his eats checked. All children tantrum and have bad days but if it is every day , and unbearable then he will defo have something bothering him . It could he ears ignites teeth then bonjela is amazing kids version. It really helps and at night calpol if he's unsettled give him support and love amd try to get to the bottom of it. He also needs space and independence...activity etc xxx update us xx