My 1 year old won’t stop crying

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Please help need advice my one year old son will not stop crying at everything. You leave him to play he cries, meal times he cries, tell him no he cries, still not sleeping through the night. Me and my partner have tried everything and I mean everything. Could he just be testing boundaries?

He is crawling and I try my best to keep him stimulated through out the day with toys, going for walks visiting family and he still cries. He is also teething but surely the amount of crying he is doing can’t be just down to this? He is usually a happy smiley child but since he turned 1 it seems as if he has changed in his personality and behaviour can this be the terrible twos stage starting early?

Any advice would be great to no I’m not alone and there are other babies that do the same.

Teething can be very painful. Are you giving him anything for the pain? We found the lidocaine gels effective when it was bad, they could take DD from a crying mess to happily playing with a few minutes. She also liked a frozen green bean to chew on, but that wasn't always enough on its own.

Is he walking yet? My DS was an absolute horror for a few months in the run up to that. So angry and frustrated with everything. Throw in peak separation anxiety and circa 12 months was a really difficult time. Within days of walking he became really sunny and far less fussy.

I'm hoping he has stopped crying by now /hug
but advice for another time.

1. Put him somewhere safe
2. walk away (like next room not next town ;-D)
3. make a cup of tea, you know you need one
4. sit down with cup of tea and pen and paper
5. write list of all the possible reasons he might be crying, and decide order of likelihood
6. work through list one by one, e.g. change nappy, rub tummy to check for wind or pain, offer drink of milk whatever's on your list
7. If you get to the bottom of your list calmly hold him for 10 minutes whilst you have a think of anything else you could add to your list.
8. restart list from the start.

The first time I did this my baby wanted nappy change, milk, wind, milk, then another nappy change in a very specific order. And I was just too tired to figure it out on the fly but treating it like a puzzle to be solved really helped me get through it
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