My 6 year old is making me feel depressed

[xtaurus97x]

Hi, I'm not sure if anyone has any help out there I just didn't know what else to try so I thought maybe getting some other peoples opinions may help.
My 6 year old son has been showing signs that are just not normal for a 6 year old for about 2 years now that have just got progressively worse.
He's is so naughty his behaviour is just awful and it's so embarrassing because Iv always tried to do my best to bring him up with respect and chinless but he has none for me. He is triggered by everything, everything I do or say is a "no" and a meltdown. Which includes vile language and disgusting language (which Iv not used around him). Followed with saying he wants me to die and then tantrums that can lead to him through stuff and breaking things. These tantrums can last up to 2 hours and then at the end he ends up in a heep on the floor in tears apologising. This can all be down to just a simple thing like him not wanting to get in the car...

Shower times and bedtimes are by far the worse. He's doesn't sleep. I have tried every single routine to try and get him to sleep I have honestly tried every tactic and exhausted every option nothing works...

He is good as anything at school. Not problems at all then at soon as he gets in the car after school is begins and every moment with him is unenjoyable... he's horrible to me. Then doesn't sleep so I don't get a break from it. He's never had contact with his father so I do it all on my own whilst working full time. My family don't like having him anymore because of his outbursts which again can be triggered by anything.

He also had a problem with bowel control so he goes through underwear everyday because he doesn't know when he needs to go. Iv been to the doctors they gave me forms to fill out to see if there are any problem Asperger/adhd etc. but the school have said that there are no issues but I now have to record him doing what he does to show people how horrendous he is.

I love my son but I feel so low and just helpless. I dread weekends and evenings. Iv tried my hardest and always done everything that I can for him but I'm just feeling so helpless and depressed. I don't know what else to do.

[Impossibletofindusername]

Hi,
I have no experience of this but I know someone who had a similar situation, her son was kicking off and telling her he wanted to kill her, but he was the same at school. He was diagnosed with autism. I also had a work colleague whos daughter was the same and very aggressive, but fine at school, so her mum had to record things. She was diagnosed with autism as well.

It sounds like a horrible situation and I hope you get a disgnoses soon and the help you need

[Impossibletofindusername]

Ill just add, the boy was diagnosed quickly as he was referred via school but the girls diagnoses was quite a wait but therapy really helped her and she is much more settled now

[xtaurus97x]

@Impossibletofindusername

Ill just add, the boy was diagnosed quickly as he was referred via school but the girls diagnoses was quite a wait but therapy really helped her and she is much more settled now

Thankyou, it's nice to know it's not only me. I know he can't just be naughty there must be more than just that and he must be just as frustrated as I am... Thankyou for your reply! X

[Impossibletofindusername]

Yeah she had a really hard time with it, was in tears a few times, and it wasnt her parenting, her other daughter is good as gold. Its absolutely not your fault or your parenting x