Hello!
I am new here, but I need desperately some advice.
Last Friday morning my son's nursery teacher told me the headteacher wants to see me. At first I thought that it could be about getting offered a school place because my son is due to start Reception in September and was on their waiting list. It didn't even occur to me it was going to be because there were some issues with his behaviour. Basically the head teacher's exact words were that my son, who recently turned 4, is a danger to staff, property and other children and that from Monday he had to attend shorter sessions. He was already going only 15 hours per week (3 hours every day), so they reduced it to 1.5h every day. The main reasons for them to decide he is a danger are that the previous day they had a visit from a farm and my son threw a tortoise at a wall and that he broke an air filter before. I asked my son about it and he was sad he hurt the tortoise and said he got scared of it that's why he threw it. I was in shock that they labelled him as a danger because he usually is a very sweet boy, very caring with his baby sister, but I accepted their decisions to cut his hours. He went for 1.5h for 3 days this week and today the head teacher told me my son hit a member of staff with a wooden brick and they don't know yet why but he can't go to nursery for 2 days while they investigate this. My son's first language is not English, I asked him at home what happened, he said his friend was throwing toys and he thought it was funny and wanted to do the same. Since September when he started nursery he did not have any issues there except they mentioned once that he gets easily frustrated when changing activities but they had a now/next board for him and they said it helped. I always try to ask if everything was ok during the day but I feel like they are always busy and not very willing to communicate.
I feel helpless now. Do you think they are overreacting? Is it normal for a 4 year to be suddenly excluded from nursery over this? He is not normaly an aggresive child, I don't know what is going on and how I can help him.