No words at 19 months

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My grandson is not saying any words at all and not really babbling but he does make noises.

Had a difficult assisted birth. Was 9.12. He's a big lad now and in 2-3yrs clothes. Walking and runs. Eats lots.

I'd say he's quiet. Obsessive about some things. Focussed on tiny details. But is that all toddlers?

As a Covid baby and at home with a nanny or his mum, he doesn't see other kids his age and when he does he's not interested.

Been a few years since I raised a toddler but seems to mw like his development may be a bit delayed?

I'm privately worried as my sisters eldest is autistic and I remember him being non verbal too.

What do you think?

I think although your intentions are honorable it's really up to parents to decide OP. No words at 19MO especially in the context of babbling and otherwise expected development isn't necessarily a massive worry. Mine wasn't saying more than a handful of words at this age but by 2 I couldn't shut her up was talking quite confidently in sentences. I'd be less worried about not talking at 19MO if she's communicating with social gestures eg pointing, signing nursery rhymes, shared interest etc. Ultimately it's up to parents to act on any real concerns though. Have they said they're worried at all?

Yes worried enough to ask me what I think.

HV is going to review.

Clearly it's not my responsibility.

Empathy from me OP. We are in a similar position in that DGC is now 2, functionally non-verbal, still BF day and night, not walking properly, doesn't engage with anyone other than his DM. At his birthday party he spent the entire time with his back to the room running a toy car backwards and forwards along the back of a sofa.

His DPs are not concerned, which puts us in a difficult position and we are very worried, but there is nothing we can do unless or until they take him to the GP or he finally sees a HV.

it's difficult.

As you state not your responsibility but totally normal to be concerned and I'm glad the health visitor is going to review. My son is autistic, my mum realised long before I did. She didn't say anything until I started questioning it myself and gave all the support she could. I think that's all you can do really, be there if/when they need you.

How is your grandson now?

How is your son now?