Which is better for a 3 year old, total relocation or keeping some familiarity?

[madamez]

I am fairly sure we are about to be given notice on our house and have to move. Have been wailing on other threads about the hassle this is going to be as we have no money and don't know how we will get a new home but, one of the other questions bugging me is: should I do everything I can to stay within the same area so DS can stay at the nursery he loves and we can carry on going to the playgroups where he has friends, or should I try to get on different council housing lists and just start again wherever they send us? Which will distress him less?

i'd think same as cat, that lo's this age make 'friends' very easily, and whilst it mike take a little while to adjust to a new nursery / whatever, it will prepare him well for school in a couple of years. In my DC's nursery they move groups & change rooms (different staff) every 9-12 months anyway, so it wouldn't be that much different would it?
A happy mum & family will make a happy little chap. You're a great mum, so he'll be fine. just make sure like cat said that you are getting what you need, it's too easy to miss that one in the picture

Yes I think if you are happy with your decision, then he will take his cue from you. Little children are so resilient on the whole and things that might seem like big ordeals for us just aren't for them. Is he a worrier/clingy type? If not am sure what ever you do hwwe will just take in his stride.

He is a nice friendly adaptable child, and I could manage elsewhere (have only lived in this area for 3 years, have friends all over the place and not that close to any other local mums). However, I do have my Avon round in the area and though Avon would allocate me roads wherever I moved, that would be a weary few months of building up the business again as well (not that it's a living but it's a handy top up). I think deep down I'd rather stay here-ish as it's got everything we like and need. But it all depends on how homeless we are going to be .

I'm sorry to hear this madamez. Children are totally unpredictable, and it is difficult to assess how much they'll get distressed by a move ime. we have just moved back to Italy with our 5.5 ds who clearly says he prefers living in Britain and 3.5 dd, who I thought wouldn't have minded that much, but she occasionally breaks out in tears saying she misses her house/nursery7friends etc