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Heartbroken at nursery incident, is there anything I can do?

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Greenleaves20 · 29/04/2022 21:03

My year old DS is a very sensitive and fairly quiet boy who takes a while to adjust in social situations and likes to stay near me until he does. He’s also small for his age (genetics) and looks more like a 2 year old, but he’s very articulate and chatty. He’s just starting to play with others but still prefers to play on his own when friends come for most of the time.

When I picked him up from nursery today they reported that a group of boys aged 3-4 had been throwing mud at him. When I asked him about it he said they’d pushed him to the floor and covered him in mud - seems feasible as I can’t see how he’d make that up and he had mud in his hair, eyes and up his nose. They said he was really upset and they got the other boys to apologise. He seems ok but I’m heartbroken and really worried this is a sign of things to come at school etc. It’s not the first time he’s been pushed about and although I accept this does on with all toddlers I’m worried his nature makes him more prone to this sort of thing. Is there anything I can do to prevent him getting into these situations or to make him more resilient? is it something I’m doing wrong?

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Scooby5kids · 30/04/2022 16:12

He's 2 and still very little, I think any 2 year old would be pretty helpless in this same situation if they were ganged up on by older kids. The other kids although still young themselves should have been better supervised and I would put a written complaint in and demand what they're going to be putting in place to ensure that this doesn't happen again. He's only 2 so he should have been adequately supervised, and it sounds like that wasn't happening because for a group of older kids to get together and do that would have taken a reasonable length of time and surely if there had been an adult nearby they would have noticed what was happening before things escalated. I'd be fuming! Not with the kids but with the nursery

Billylilly · 02/05/2022 12:05

I’d more upset if I was the parent of one of the bullies! I’m surprised that managed to happen in supposed supervised care

ZooKeeper19 · 02/05/2022 22:25

Can you move him to a nursery where they do not mix those groups? Ours has 0-2y, then 2-3y then preschool. This makes sure kids are about the same size and also the ratio teacher/child is better. I would be sad about this too, not to worry you, these situations happen but it is so hard to leave them at a nursery and to worry on top that he is not safe and happy would be hard for me too, so I understand.
Maybe speak to the teachers there, make sure they watch out for him and keep him safer.

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