I have 6 year old b/g twins
She is great. Understands consequences, helps out, bright and chatty and sometimes throws a wobbly but is quick to recover or is able to talk about it.
He can also be brilliant. He's very bright, energetic and can be the most loving boy in the world. But he has a dark side.
He still doesn't understand that his behaviour has consequences, it's a daily struggle.
Todays incident for example. We've been struggling with picky eating and Easter chocolate has been used as a reward for eating. Instead of understanding the "rules of the game" he sits at the table complaining, arguing and generally not eating. He then cries when we say he isn't getting the chocolate.
And when he cries that sends him down the anger lane and off we go. Violence towards all of us, screaming, stamping, slamming doors. Etc etc.
I really hoped he would have grown out of this by now. Even leaving the house is a fight, but the minute we're out of the house he's fine.
He is a model student at school of course.
I really struggle with it. We've had this since he was three (or since he could string a sentence together). I shout very rarely and when I do it makes him cry immediately- but he doesn't seem to learn what he did wrong, even if we talk about it later or the next day.
I've tried all the methods I can think about- and I stick to the method I'm trying so I don't confuse things.
But please - can someone tell me he will grow out of these tantrums?