My Dd is 7, she's always been described as a live wire. I've pretty much reached my limit on what I can handle now.
I think she has ADHD. I've spoken to school and they've been observing her, she's behind with her learning, quite substantially, they've noticed she lacks fine motor skills, but her behaviour at school is good. This is what I don't understand, surely she would demonstrate the same behaviour at school that she does at home?
She doesn't stop talking, it feels like torture, the constant questions, shouting me all the time hundreds of time a day, I can barely think. She can't follow simple instructions and needs every task breaking down into small chunks. I can easily ask her 10 times to brush her teeth, for example, and she'll still forget to do it.
I reward good behaviour and there are consequences for the bad, for example I've confiscated a chocolate egg she was looking forward to tonight because she intentionally smeared lip balm on her bedroom wall.
I'm so frustrated, I'm becoming a shouty parent, that's not me at all. My mental health is suffering. We have teens too, never dealt with issues like this with them. They feel embarrassed by their sister.
What can I do? I love her so much but feel like running away, I'm exhausted. Please be kind, I feel like a failure.