I have a lovely little DS. He’s two, three in July. He’s a really funny, bright and loving little boy but around once a day this red mist will descend, for no reason, and he’ll try and hurt one of us.
For instance, yesterday he was playing really nicely with DD (4) and then from nowhere he started pushing his finger in to the top of her hand as hard as he could.
Today he was having a cuddle with DH. Then he hit him in the face. Earlier he asked me for a cuddle then yanked my hair as hard as he could. When I asked him to stop he gritted his teeth and yanked again.
We ask him why he did it and he says ‘because I wanted to’. I know it’s probably just frustration at expressing himself but his language is good, he expresses himself very well generally. We explain that it’s not nice to hit people, that you can hurt them and make them sad, it looks like it’s going in but more often that not he’ll then just hit us again.
It’s only the three of us he hits, rarely me actually. He hasn’t been hit, it’s not a learned thing. Despite being two years older my DD is scared of him when he’s like that and doesn’t understand why he’d hurt her, she doesn’t have it in her to be slyly hurting him.
I just don’t know what to do. He’s at nursery four days a week, with my mum one day a week, never hits or hurts there. He was a biter between one and two but we managed to stop that through reason. No luck with this though.
Will he just grow out of it? It’s getting quite tiresome now and so frustrating because overall he’s a dream.