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Feeling judged by toddler behaviour

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xXwhenwillitendXx · 21/03/2022 17:17

Dd has just turned 19 months and is a little live wire to say the least.
She strops, and throws tantrums, which I tend to ignore and she gets over them quickly, I can see other people giving me the pitying glance, but generally I can deal with that.
However, she is a climber. She climbs on everything and anything be it indoors or outside. I've learnt to deal with this by risk assessing the area and if its safe to do so (surface not to high) then I let her carry on.
Inevitably she falls a lot, she's a tough cookie and she generally will just laugh and carry on what she is doing.
In the last week there has been two occasions where she has fallen, one being at the park, and one in the play centre where she fell down a step. Each time the surfaces where very low and she was at no risk of serious harm and she got up with no crying and not hurt.
However, the other parents all dash over to her and fuss around her to see if she's okay and look at me like I'm the worst mum ever and not taking care of her properly.
I've asked for advice on how to stop the climbing and I've been told what I'm doing is fine, and really I can't stop her and have to let her learn, but I just can't get over the looks that I get off other mums, it's making me feel awful and like I should do more.

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AliceW89 · 21/03/2022 21:27

I think it depends on the circumstances. My DS is just a bit older and isn’t a climber, so to see a 19 month old stack it down some stairs or off a climbing frame probably would make me look. If there was an adult present supervising the child, I’d leave it at that. If there wasn’t obviously an adult closely supervising I definitely would check on them and I hope someone would do the same for my DS too, should the situation arise.

xXwhenwillitendXx · 21/03/2022 21:31

I'm always with her or close by and would never let her do something that would cause serious harm.
I get it if I wasn't near and she was crying but not when she just stands straight up, laughs and goes on her merry way.

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